Well is a long story here.. Thanks in advance for your patient to take a look at my problems.
My Boyfriend, and her ex was once my colleagues. I had been together with him after few months of their break off.
They had been together for 2 years more. A lot of good and bad memories happens between them where The boyfriend are quite poor at that time, with low income salary, does not own a car and stuff. The Ex went through a lot hard time with him and treated The Boyfriend very good enough that The Boyfriend once promised to himself that he will marry her.
But after first year of their happiness, The Boyfriend's mum came over to their place and stayed with them, where the disaster started to happen. The Boyfriend seems to cared about his mum and lack of care for The Ex. All the argues, misunderstanding, hates, cry happens afterward till their break off.
Me and The boyfriend were together for 2 years now. We were so happy in this meanwhile where we didn't really argue about much thing. I guess is because we really tolerate with each other about everything. Although sometimes I'll be so suspicious and worried that they could get back together ( since they are working together in the same company, where I have left 1 years ago ), but i choose to believe him and throw all the "suspicious things" away from my mind. He is so honest to me that he would tell me everything.
But, ever since last month, The Boyfriend meet with his ex, and had a dinner together. They talked about everything, the past , some misunderstanding they both didn't know. The Boyfriend is so hurt after realizing that he has hurts the ex so deep. The ex still couldn't forget about him, and couldn't let go.
The Boyfriend currently are so struggling not knowing whether he is still in love with the girl, but in the meanwhile, he is also afraid he will did a same mistake by hurting me.
Just simplify the word, he is currently in love with me, but he can't forget his ex and so hurt that he once misunderstood the girl. My point is, what should I do ?
1- Should I let go this relationship even though it is hurt to do so, but is even hurt when you know the guy sleeping beside you is hurting for another women.
2- Should I hold on tight this relationship while waiting him to endure from this pain? Wait him to understand the point that " A past is a past " ?
What should I do ?