I would like to ask other peoples opinion on this issue, people that dont know me and dont know her. We've argued about it plenty and she starts to make me think that its no big deal and that
i should just let it go. So i said i would ask complete strangers what they thought about these issues that have arisen. I am at the point where i need to decide whether this girl is trust worthy or not so here it goes. We have been together for 8 months, we ended up breaking up a month ago because we were arguing alot and i just couldnt put up with it anymore so we decided to take a break. A few weeks have passed and shes really been portraying that she still loves me and wants to make things work, so i said ok yes i want to make things work as well. So at this point we have decided were going to work on our issues and mend our relationship. Three days later, shes at her brothers fireman graduation party at their house, one of his friends is there and is hitting on her and i cant say how she reacted to this or not but what i can say is what happened after, she is walking out to leave and her brother comes out and says your not going to get his number? Hes a good friend of mine and is a great guy, so he hands her the phone number, this is where i feel she should of been like well me and my bf are working on things i dont want to take this number, but she not only takes the number but calls the guy the same day like hey i got your number. So shes staying at my house to get a ride to work for a week which happens to be right when this happens, so for three day shes textin somebody, i have no idea at this point but her phones blowin up, shes textin every five minutes gigglin and so forth.. So finally im like enough and i confront her, im like who are you textin non stop and such, i end up finally getting the whole story behind which i explained above, and thats how she explains it so who knows if i learned everything or not, she claims she just wanted to be "friends." It makes no sense to me why she would of gotten this guys number and been textin and talking to him on the phone, at this point i dont know what to think so i ended up reading through the text messages with her permission.. she refused to let me read them at first but i said the only reason you wouldnt want me to read those text's is because you have something to hide, at this point she really didn't have much choice. So they were talking about things they like and dont like, they were just asking eachother alot of wierd questions like how do you feel about marriage? kids? Best way i could explain it was the convo seemed like they were pre dating and trying to get to know eachother better or whatever you want to call it. She claims she had no idea this guy was interested in her etc..
So thats my first issue, then just yesterday she asked to see my phone, which i really dont mind i have nothing to hide, so i say fine give me yours. Before she hands me the phone she all of sudden is going through something on her phone which i thought was odd so i look over at the screen and she is deleting something.. So im like uhh what are you deleting? She said oh its a contact. Im like so you decide right before you think im going to be snooping through your phone to delete something? Shes like yeah whats the big deal? Turns out it was a guys number she had gotten during the time we had been seperated for a few weeks and had just happened to remember she should delete it right then.. So this also bothered the crap out of me and shes really good at making it seem like im blowing things out of proportion and im sitting here questioning myself as to whether i am being crazy or not.. So PLEASE answer me this, would YOU trust this person.