How important is the religion in a relationship?
Hello everyone
I've always thought that when two people are in love, nothing else should matter. Meaning age, skin color, money, religion etc..If your feelings are true, you'd love that person for who he/she really is.
But here I am, in a situation that puts all my beliefs to a test.
Everything started at the end of August 2012 - my best friend at the time wanted me to meet her boyfriend's brother because she thought we'd be perfect for each other. But her boyfriend was Muslim and so was his brother. I have nothing against the religion, I have friends that I love and that are Muslim. But I have never dated a Muslim guy before so it was a bit scary..I guess I was scared in a way that I'd fall for him and, since my family has this anger toward the religion, that would make things complicated.
I didn't say "yes" to my best friend so we forgot about this conversation.
And one day, we went to her boyfriend's house to chill and his brother was there. So I finally met him, but it was a coincidence because he was supposed to be working. And so we talked for a few hours and then I left, thinking that he didn't like me because he seemed reserved. In a week or so, I got a facebook request from him so I accepted. We started sending messages to each other and then, after another week passed by, we started talking on the phone..We had a few dates, everything seemed normal - the feeling I had that he didn't like me had been long gone and instead, I found myself feeling comfy with him. He was kind, funny, adorable, gentleman and I couldn't wait to see him again, and again, and again.
I've been with him for almost 5 months now and I am happy. We have arguments from time to time but it's for little things so it's normal I guess. He's 26, I'm 23. He was actually the first guy I made love to..I'm aware that it might sound really conservative but I've always thought that when I find the right person for me, I'll lose my virginity to him. I've had 3 boyfriends so far and all of them were trying to get in my pants. But he was the first one that actually gave me the time I needed without pressuring me about it. And I am really glad I waited.
The thing that bothers me is that he's been talking about marriage since I met him. It started as a joke that my best friend made about me and him. But his mom started calling me daughter-in-law. I already explained to him that I want to get married some day and have kids and build my own family. But not before I have a stable job - I want to be able to provide for my kids. And he said he understands that. But he keeps talking how in his religion, we have to be married to live together because otherwise it looks bad. And I told him that I don't want to marry before living with that person, getting to know his daily habits, his routine.
So my question is, am I right for wanting this? And we've talked about his religion also - I've even seen him pray and it looked beautiful, at least to me. Deep down inside I see my life with him, I see our future together and I like it. But so far, I've never thought about how religion would affect me; us...I know it sounds kind of ridiculous thinking about that only after 5 months of being with him but when you feel it's the right person, you don't think about what it looks like...I just want to be with him. But I'm not sure about changing my religion or how my family would react to a possible marriage in future. I really don't know what to do as it's the first time I'm in a situation like this. So I would really appreciate any posts from you guys
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