hello,
( i tried to keep it short but hey..)
my situation: Basically broke up with my ex (3 year relationship),
mutual break up but also her blaiming me im not paying enough attention
etc etc. Anyway, she found a new guy in a short period of time, while we
remained friends and basically where going out a lot. So naturally I got depressed and so on.
Now, 3.5 months after still not completelly over that and her.
I was in no contact, spent a lot of time thinking and accepted.
I broke no contact once, to explain why im in no contact
she didnt really get it, she wants to be friends still, she sends happy emails.
The thing is, I want to keep her as a friend, but really now
is too early I am still hurt and all. Just for the future.
So, she keeps asking me to visit her, go out alltogether !
Now, I am bored of explaining and she's not getting y I am not going.
Last request is to attend her B-day party.
(sight of her making out with him doh!)
So I wan to decline, but the fact is all of our common friends,
but in her geographic proximity nowadays
don't get it either and me declining allways makes me a miserable
C**t in everyone's eyes..
so my solutions:
1. I explain again to her (i am bored of doing this, last option)
2. I tottaly shut her out
3. Reply , Oh, I am busy, another time (again)
4. .................................
Quite a long post for a simple question, but
the real question is how do I really treat the situation without totaly
isolating myself. thus the thread title.
Thanks.