I am 31 I have been with my girlfriend (30) or about 18 months now. I moved in after about 8 months so we share her flat together.
When we met we didn't really date much just jumped into a relationship and doing everything together.
She is a really nice person but sometimes I think I have fallen out of love with her. I don't really look forward to seeing her and kind of think she is an annoyance. Trouble is she is a really nice, loyal and loving girl.
The main problem (I think) is that we don't have a lot in common, so
- I struggle to think of anything other than going for a meal that we both like doing together
- I want more time on my own to do things that I want to do but she just wants to hang out with me
- I am starting to resent her for taking my time and not doing anything interesting with it
- We are now arguing quite a bit
- When I hang out with my family/friends I feel happier than I do with her
- I can't really see a future together and I think that means I am not making enough effort
We have talked about it a few times but nothing seems to change, and I guess this is because we are just being ourselves and can't change that? I suggested a break a while ago but somehow she talked me round.
I am starting to worry about it a lot and I have started to think about leaving her.
I am scared of doing the wrong thing or expecting too much. I feel so bad because she relies on me a lot, and is a really lovely girl. And she really loves me and I don't want to break her heart.
What questions should I be asking myself?
What would you do?
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