Should I move on and break her heart?

[goodseagull]

I am 31 I have been with my girlfriend (30) or about 18 months now. I moved in after about 8 months so we share her flat together.

When we met we didn't really date much just jumped into a relationship and doing everything together.

She is a really nice person but sometimes I think I have fallen out of love with her. I don't really look forward to seeing her and kind of think she is an annoyance. Trouble is she is a really nice, loyal and loving girl.

The main problem (I think) is that we don't have a lot in common, so
- I struggle to think of anything other than going for a meal that we both like doing together
- I want more time on my own to do things that I want to do but she just wants to hang out with me
- I am starting to resent her for taking my time and not doing anything interesting with it
- We are now arguing quite a bit
- When I hang out with my family/friends I feel happier than I do with her
- I can't really see a future together and I think that means I am not making enough effort

We have talked about it a few times but nothing seems to change, and I guess this is because we are just being ourselves and can't change that? I suggested a break a while ago but somehow she talked me round.

I am starting to worry about it a lot and I have started to think about leaving her.

I am scared of doing the wrong thing or expecting too much. I feel so bad because she relies on me a lot, and is a really lovely girl. And she really loves me and I don't want to break her heart.

What questions should I be asking myself?
What would you do?

Big thanks for your time reading this, if anything is too sketchy then please ask me for more info

[MerryH]

So the main reason you're with her is because you don't want to hurt her by breaking up with her? It's preferable that she stays in a relationship with someone who doesn't seem to enjoy her company all that much?

Yeah, breaking up will hurt her, but she'll eventually get over it. If she's as good a girlfriend as you say she is, then let her be with someone who will appreciate that. She will be happier in the long run.