Originally Posted by
TheGreek
She actually got something stuck in her throat and started choking. And when she chokes she cries.
She's going to need to get over that soon if she expects this relationship to work out..
Originally Posted by
TheGreek
So I got her name and went to go look her up on facebook. Couldn't find her. She spells her name different that usual. Anyway, she friended me. We chatted on their back and forth about some random stuff and I was just like screw it, I'll ask her. So I got her number from a friend of mine, because I thought some other dude was gonna ask her or I would have just waited until the next day. Either way, when I called her she said yes and didn't even ask me how I got her number.
First order of business.., may I say.., and may we both be honest.., that this was perhaps one of the most weasel-type things I've ever heard..
Second order of business.., I don't understand how more obvious you want her to be.. She obviously likes you.., OBVIOUSLY!!! She might as well have a sign stating so explicitly.. She's being honest.., not putting up an act or playing coy.., for g-d's sake she told you yes.., what more of a message are you waiting for? A letter from the Pope?
Originally Posted by
TheGreek
So now we are going. We've had 2 other conversations on facebook, each for about an hour. And I walked her to her other class the other day and we kinda chatted. Fact of the matter is, I like her. I know it probably sounds kinda strange since I barely know her, but something about her is just really attractive to me. More than the fact that she is pretty and has an awesome personality. But, I'm having trouble reading her. I have no idea if she likes me back. I've texted her a couple of times and she'll answer. But if I text her again, she usually doesn't write back. I asked my buddy who took her to homecoming last year and he said that she is kinda weird via text messages and much cooler online or in person.
Awesome.., she's like a guy.. You struck gold.., hit the jackpot.., she's a keeper..
She likes you.., guaranteed..
Take things slow.., get to know her a little bit more.., and start to let her in on things you like about her.. (if you don't know exactly what they are.., then how do you expect her to know exactly what they are? if she doesn't know exactly what they are.., then what is she most likely to conclude about why you like her?)
I know.., there's fuzziness in a guy's emotional train of thought.., like a thick fog over a dense mist.., you can't even see your own hands and feet.., much less the other person standing just steps in front of you.. But the wind that can clear up that haziness is awareness.., mental focus.., and perceptiveness..
As you sit down and take a break from thinking about "nothing".., when you're wondering about why you like her so much.., try and bring forth flashbacks in your mind.., soundbites and visuals of things she said or did that really got to you.., and don't just stop there.. Because things she said or did are meaningless in and of themselves.. Go one step beyond that.., yeah.., that's right.. It take a bit of mental effort on your part.., but it's no time to be emotionally or mentally lazy..
Try and think how that made you feel.., how she touched you.., why she touched you.. Try and think about qualities it shows you about her character and personality.., how are those qualities important to you.., why would you value those qualities in someone you want to be in a relationship with?
That's it.. Nothing more complicated than that.. Really..
When you have a clear idea and picture in your own mind.., when you can become aware of all those feelings and then capture them completely and put them into words.., then expressing them to her is easy..
In fact.., you're a lot less nervous about expressing them to her.., because there's no doubt.., you're absolutely certain and sure of how you feel and why you feel that way.., It doesn't feel like you're missing something or leaving out anything.. It doesn't feel like you're lost or you just don't really know.. With that kind of attitude and certainty.., you can be sure that you'll naturally project the right message to her..
Before you start thinking about these things now.., remember.., she wants to hear all these things.., she's waiting for you to tell her how you feel about her.., and why you feel that way about her.., and why HER (as opposed to someone else).. So don't feel awkward or weird when you talk about it and tell her.., it's more than welcomed.., it's longed for..
Originally Posted by
TheGreek
So my question is, how to I read her? I mean, our first conversation on facebook chat, she sent me something. The next night I sent her something. But we haven't done that since. I'm guessing my best bet is to just take her to homecoming, show her I'm a good guy, and see where it goes from there. I got her a nice mum, beautiful corsage, we're going to a nice restaurant with a group of people that we are mutual friends with. Tried to get a Hummer H2 limo for our group of 20, but not enough guys wanted to pay for it. Anyway, my question is how can I tell if she likes me? I know it's a long thing to go through but thanks for reading. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
No need to go that far.., in fact.., the more you try.., the more it works against you..
That's not to say you shouldn't be honest and open about how you feel towards her.., that's not to say you shouldn't go ahead and show her how interested you are in her.., that's always flattering and always makes her feel great about herself.., safe and secure.. but don't confuse or mix that up with "trying hard".. Trying hard is never attractive.., it's like mosquito replant for women (unless they have self esteem issues and need to feel validated).., because nearly all of the people that try hard.., do so in order to compensate for what they feel they are lacking to offer in other areas of the relationship.. If that sounds like you.., then by all means.., go ahead..
Last edited by GrkScorp; 10-10-08 at 09:19 AM.
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