Man-centered

[twisted]

I have been "man-centered" pretty much ever since I can remember. How can I change this? I've always had a handful of girlfriends, but my current relationship is different. We've moved to another country together and I haven't really had a way to cultivate friendships. I am going through a tough period with him right now and need someone to talk to, but don't really have any girlfriends. He is also very "lady-centered" and so, expects the same from me in return. If I start seeing my friends I will feel guilty because he doesn't really see his guy friends - he prefers to be with me.

I know this all seems really immature, but if I say I need some space, after 4 years of always being together, he doesn't get it. He just gets upset.

Any suggestions? Thanks..

[swanted]

you both need to find time to be with your friends, it will make your bond stonger. men understand men on a different level than women do... and the same for women. tell him you dont want him to be upset and try to explain to him your need for companionship outside your relationship

[vashti]

Start taking up "female" hobbies. He won't want to join you, and you can make some friends.

Encourage him to take up some "male" hobbies.

[Cain]

For him to get upset when you need space to hang out with friends is silly. He seems a little emotional.

I agree with vash. Take up female hobbies so he doesn't want to tag along.

[Gigabitch]

If you ever get burned and have nobody to turn to, you'll stop being man-centered pretty damned fast and you'll never let it happen again.

Don't learn the hard way. Make it a priority. If he complains, do what he does when you complain and tune him out.

[Tedel]

...or do something where you can meet both men and women. Singing in a choir, for example?