So my girlfriend is ungrateful almost a spoiled brat. Shes doesnt have a reason to act so entitled...shes 5 years older than me and has 2 kids from different dads no job and is kind of lazy. I couldnt believe I was falling with her when I did and I decided to go for it and accept every bit of baggage in her life just to be with her.
She asks me to do so many things for her I feel like our relationship is out of sync. Ill literally spend hours of my time helping her and at the end of the day she wont even cook me a meal cause she "doesnt feel like it". Whenever I ask her to do anything she usually helps me out but more often than not shell drag her feet or jusg make an excuse. Im not even talking about driving me places or things like that ill straight up ask for a bj and shell always refuse cause its too mucb work for her.
She doesnt clean when I ask her too and she really needs to. Shell cook for me about 30% of the time when I ask. Ivenoticed shell only help me with things that dont inconvenience her...like borrowing something.
To be fair there isnt much for her to help me with, but thats what bothers me so much...I give her money when she needs it, drive her places, talk on the phone with her when shes feeling down even if im at work or could be doing something else. Ill miss out on things with my friends just to help her and half the time it turns out I didnt even need to be there...I stayed over her house for a week straight not leaving cause ahe needed me to watch her kids to run some errand but she never even did the errand and was with me the whole time.
I do all this stuff and when I ask her to just go to the store and coom its practically a fight to get her to do anything...all I ask of her is to cook and blow me and she hardly does either. Anytime I bring up the stuff I do for her she always starts yelling "THIS IS WHY I HATE ASKING YOU FOR STUFF CAUSE YOU ALWAYS THROW IT IN MY FACE" but I feel like I can throw that stuff in her facd cause even though you shouldnt do favors expecting something in return dont you think that youd be a fool to keep helping someone who isnt interested in helping you? Am I crazy?
Worst of all when I cant do something she asks she gets angry and wont talk to me and just gets in a bad mood that is supposed to make me uncomfortable.
When I started noticing her manipulation we started fighting all the time...if she asks me for something and I cant do it im not just unavailable im messing up her plans and she gets mad at me for basically having my own life and tries to make me feel terrible. Then when I do stuff for her she hardly shows gratitude as if I was expected to do it the whole time...I always tell her shes ungrateful but she denies it all the time the. We start fighting and it blows up into this stupid stuff...
I love her but I dont feel appreciated, saying thank you is ok but I tell her I want her to show me she cares about me and she never does...
What do you all think im at my breaking point...I just had a talk with her about how I dont feel appreciated and then the next night she gets mad at me cause I coulndt drive 45 minutes to give her her phone cause I didnt have a car and im sick. I blew up at her and told her I dont want to deal with her ungrateful bull anymore...am I sane? Her whole family agrees with me and they often tell me im too nice to her...other aspects of our relationship are amazing but I cant get past this and im sick of feeling so unappreciated.