There is this girl I spend most of my free time with and we've been through A LOT together in the past two months. And I really do mean a lot of hard stuff which would break up most adult relationships. We adore one another and constantly remind the each other how much we love the other. We kiss and hug, occasionally make out and make love (roughly once a week), but apparently, at least according to her, we are not a couple. While she will enjoy sleeping with me, and even initiated it a few times, most of the time she's not in the mood.
Thing is, even though she says she couldn't live without me and that I'm the only one she truly believes loves and respects her she doesn't really see me as a boyfriend, which I sort of get, since I'm 19 years old, she's 16 and is at that age when she's extremely shallow, at least as far as boyfriends are concerned. It's not even that she's afraid of ruining our friendship.
Another interesting fact is that she didn't love any of her previous boyfriends. Add to that the fact that she is extremely jealous when I'm talking to other girls and isn't really searching for a boyfriend herself, even though she had several opportunities to get one.
Will someone help me solve this cluster of a mind? Is she just emotionally immature? Am I just a great friend to her? I really do love her and I've done things for her I haven't done for anyone in my life. We see each other every day for at least an hour, though it isn't uncommon for us to spend the entire day together on weekends.
My belief is that she does love me, that she might even be in love with me, but that she's just too immature, relationship-wise, to figure it out completely. I've also been there for her the past two months every time she needed me (note: been there for her, not ran behind her like a dog on a leash) so it might be that she doesn't realize what it's like to not have me when she needs me. Thoughts?