Hello,
I am a first time poster! I have quite the sticky situation and don't know how to handle it. I am almost a year from my divorce, I wasn't looking to get mixed up into a relationship but am currently 6 months in! My new girlfriend is amazing and my connection to her is real. My marriage was awful, I felt secure and ready in taking on this new relationship becasue while the marriage was bad I did everything I could to work on it and try and repair/save it.
My girlfriend too was coming off of a bad relationship and I feel that contributes to our connection, although it isn't the only connection we have. She recently had a set back and is going through and emotional wirl wind trying to complete the closure process. Just last night we had a break through in communication and she and I agree that a little space will help her through. I can appreciate space as I am still in touch with the hard journey that a bad relationship can cause someone to go through, and I can understand how hard bringing closure can be. She has said that she wants space, she also says that she doesn't want to break up or stop dating. She still wants to talk and be together she just wants time as she completes the closure.
My dilema:
I want to give her this space and I want to be a rock that she can lean on as well. While I can appreciate that closure process, I know I couldn't do it alone.
Is there any one way to make those two opposite wants that I have work?
Should I proceed only at her pace, engage in talking only when she talks to me?