"i found out a few weeks after she broke up with me to "talk" to my supposed to be best friend. He manipulated the situation and basically took her from me. We broke up because we were not happy all the time, so he used that to his advantage. He knew i still wanted to be with her and behind my back was talking to her and telling her to move on and she can do better."
So your friend is a manipulator and your ex is an easily tricked girl . . . I'd suggest you leave both of them, seriously, nearly 4 years broken up in a few weeks?! . . .if it happened once it could happen again
"At this point im pretty much moved on, i dont think about her day to day, its actually pretty rare for me to think about her and when i was with her for lunch i didnt have butterflies or anything. "
I suggest continue on with this and move on . . . find a new committed girl and get a new best friend
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