Hi all,
I moved 200 miles away from my parents and have had a girlfriend where I live for about 10 years now. Her parents live round the corner and we see them once a week (sometimes more) for tea and they often pop round but usually don't come in. My parents come to visit 2 possibly 3 times a year and as they travel 200 miles they come Friday night and leave Sunday evening (2 nights). Before we had our own house about 5 years ago we had a small bedsit so my parents stayed in a local hotel. Since I bought my own house (only 2 bed) I liked it that my parents could stay over and I felt proud to show hospitality and thank them for doing so much for me in my upbringing as such. Due to lots of clutter in the house and one bedroom with a bed in it they sleep on inflatable beds in the living room but insist they are happy with that. My gf keeps saying they should stay in a hotel and implies she's thinking of their welfare but also indicates it would save her having to clean up and tidy up. She also doesn't like it interfering with her weekend and feels like she can't spend time on her own (which I said she could) as she would feel rude. She also said I could go and see them whenever I liked and that I get to see them on a family break once a year and she also does get on well with them.
Thing is I don't think it's much for her to 'put up' with my parents visiting a couple of weekends in a year and staying in the house (saving cost of a hotel). Considering also she hasn't worked for years and just hangs around the house all day whereas I work so she has more free time than me anyway. She gets really stressed having to tidy up the house and clean up ready for them. My view is that as she doesn't work she should keep the house clean and tidy anyway but she wakes up at midday and spents most of the time on her computer. I come home from my 9 to 5 job and do washing up, emptying bins, washing, shopping etc although she does cook. I did also tell her I'd help tidy up the house and booked half a day off work for that as well.
Is it unfair for me to have my parents stay over and not insist on staying in a hotel?