I've been seeing this guy for about a month now and we decided last night that we are officially together. I really like him.. Hes alot older than me tho which isn't really a problem for me. I just don't know how older guys are in relationships and if hes taking it seriously or not. When we first got together he recieved a text message from a chic saying i'll have sex with you if you want me to.. and then she called him a few hours later yelling are you in bed with another chic..he said no i'm really tired i wanna go to sleep and got off the phone. Hes really nice to me makes me coffee every morning and says the sweetest things to me always wants to spend heaps of time with me.. but i've seen dialed and recieved calls in hes phone from this chic.. 5 days ago. and i called him tonight at 7 and he was whispering and really blunt not himself i called him again at 9:30 and he was like i'm in bed sleeping..n was really blunt again.. i stay with him alot and he usually doesn't go to bed this early.. i stayed there last night and we slept all day today. I don't know if im just paranoid and causing problems for no reason.. but i don't know if theres a pattern here or not.. ? would like an opinion. also would love some advice on how to approach this situation without making myself look like an idiot.