I've kept in touch with a former coworker who used to flirt a little. There's a large age gap but he's a nice guy & good-looking; I'm flattered. We've had drinks 3 times in the past 2 years & sometimes see each other at my old workplace. He's married with kids, so I'm not acting on anything!
However, his behaviour is increasingly forward. He:
said that he'd joked to his wife that he was meeting his girlfriend
bought me drinks
asked if I had a boyfriend & about my "type"
said I was attractive
made jokes of a sexual nature (about not wearing underwear, asked if I had a vibrator)
joked we were having an affair
mentioned songs with seemingly suggestive lyrics
tried to hold eye contact
offered to drive me to my car
I didn’t encourage him, or actively discourage him but I WON'T engage in an affair with him. I'm just unsure of whether I can see him without leading him on! Any thoughts?
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