Hi: I have a dilemma and need some advice. I met my girlfriend in June 2007 when we both lived in Singapore. She was my dog walker, house cleaner. We started a very casual relationship then though I did meet her family in the Philippines and we went on vacation together. I had to move to the USA in Feb 2008 and between that time and July 2009 we had a long distance relationship with me visiting her 4x during that 1.5 years. She is now here living with me on a 3 month fiance visa but have to get married by Oct 10th or she goes back. I feeling that I need to back out, that it is too rushed, and she is after all not the right one for me. The biggest concerns are financial and social acceptance. I have 3 kids from my first marriage all under the age of 12 and truth is that this woman while wonderfully accepting of my kids (helps with them a lot), caring affectionate and a wonderful sexual partner, she is entirely dependent on me, has only a simple high school education and likely will never earn more than minimum wage. She also wants kids some day but is practical about waiting. I am scared, nervous and not ready to commit in such a short period of time but also so worried about sending her back to Asia after all she has given up. The reality is that we dont have all that much in common. We have fun and all conversations are very light. I am not sure this is enough for the long run. I am no genius but I think I need someone who can challenge me a little bit. She is Catholic, I am Jewish, she doesnt like to exercise while I do, etc. etc. The thing I love about her is the compassion, the sex, the affection, the trust, the consistency and the support she gives to me and the kids. I am pressured and stressed but cannot find clear direction. What advice do you have for me?