Why does my gf say stuff to get me mad?

[theone11]

Why does she do this? She will be all nice then say something that will make me mad.
Should I just ignore these things or tell her off? I don't even know if she realizes what she says is wrong...
Because they aren't insults or anything... Hard to explain. Disrespectful, social idiot, or mental problems is what I think. How do you deal with these people?

[Jeany]

talk to her.

[basilandthyme]

Theone, are you suggesting that she says stuff with the single intent of making you angry?

[theone11]

I dont know if she realizes she is doing it but says stuff once in a while that gets me mad. Its really hard to explain I have never had to deal with this from someone before. Does she need to be put in her place? Ignore it? The things she says are in a way that they make me mad and are just stupid. It seems that she likes to do it when im in a good mood too, but not always. Its like I bring her up all the time and she tries to bring me down. Whats up with this and what do I do with her besides dump her...which Im thinking of doing based on this fact. Should I start doing the same to her? Shes selfish too lol.

[basilandthyme]

If you're not happy with her, by all means, dump her.

In your title, you alluded to her doing this to "make you mad". And then you say she may not be aware she's doing it. And then you say that she likes to do it when you're happy. If she's not aware that she's doing it, does she deserve for you to make it out that she's deliberately trying to antagonise you?

There's a very big difference between her deliberately making you mad and her saying something which happens to make you mad. First you have to figure out if she's simply speaking without thinking - or if she has evil intent.

I think you'll have to give some examples if we're to give any constructive advice.

[TheSaint]

Your first mistake is actually listening to her in the first place, your second mistake is giving a ****. Women say all sorts of shite just to get your attention, its best just to nod your head and pretend you arent really watching porn on your laptop.

[TheSaint]

Basil in this thread is a perfect example. I didnt read a word of her long post, and I'm my life is no different because of it.