Originally Posted by
Benni
My guy and I have been lovers for awhile now. We see each other twice a week.
In the beginning, he had a thing about me ‘getting out of position’. Example= doggy style, he wants my back dipped down and my butt arched in the air-- ok, that’s fine. But, when I’m really getting into it and about to orgasm, I raise up, grab the headboard rails and start to let go. He gently pushes me back down to the position. Then, if I move again, he just pulls out-- says ‘****!’ -- rolls over and is pissed. He won’t touch/talk to me. We finally just go the hell to sleep. So, I have learned to ‘stay in position.’
Another thing that frustrates me is-- when we are making love, I want to reach out and hold onto his arm- or leg- or his chest- depending on what position we’re in -- but whenever I do that, he gently removes my hands. It’s like he doesn’t want me to hold him or touch him during sex.
The other night, missionary style, I started contracting my vaginal muscles-- on and off-- because it felt good to me. He said “Why are you squeezing like that? Every time I’m about to cum, you do something that ****s with my mind!” Again, he pulled out and rolled over. I spoke up with “I did that because it felt good and I thought it’d feel good to you, too.” No reply whatsoever.
He, sometimes, will indicate that he wants me to caress my own breasts and finger myself to orgasm. Ok, I get that guys like to watch this but I don’t want him to make a habit of it. I’ve been caressing/pleasing myself for many, many single years. Now that I have a guy, I want HIM to do that to me-- not watch me do it!
He exhausts the hell out of me. It takes him sooooo long to cum. Our sessions last about an hour and a half and, for nearly an hour of that, I am being penetrated. So, I become sore and tired.
I have spoken to him about the ‘position’ stuff and he just says “Oh, no worries” and drops the subject. I think he may do the same if I try to communicate with him about the other issues. I have no idea what to do about any of this.