Hi guys, I just want to hear some opinions and advice on my relationship (be kind please!).
Ok so I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and a half now. I am 26 years old, he is 28 in a couple of weeks time. He owns his own house, I still live with family so I tend to stay at his house. The things which are upsetting me are :
1. He wont give me a key to his house. Fair enough it's his house not mine, but he will only give me a key when I'm at his house on a day off so I pop out for shopping etc. then have to give the key back when I go home. To me I find this hurtful but it's not my main issue, just one of the things getting to me.
2. He says he does NOT want to settle down yet.
3. He says he "doesn't know" if he ever wants to get married in the future or have children. He isn't sure if he wants that.
4. He hasnt introduced me to his father and 2 sisters. Fair enough they dont live with him, and he see's them around 3-4 times a year. But he has met my family, I feel sad he doesnt want to show me off to them!
He says he is happy with me. He is loyal, he calls me all the time and we see each other alot.
I feel our relationship is great, we have a loving relationship, lots of affection, we go out for nice meals, go shopping, have days out together. it;s Everything I want. But now I am 26, and a few long term relationships down the road (one lasting 4 years - a guy who said he did not believe in marriage, then 3 months after breaking up with me got engaged to another girl) I now feel I do not want to be in that situation anymore where I have a boyfriend wasting my time etc.
Yes I'm happy, but when I look at all my friends getting married, living together, why do I not deserve this??
I ask him do you want us to move in together this year? He says no not this year. I say oh right, would you want to next year? "MAYBE YEAH"
I'm feeling soo upset by this all, I just feel I deserve committment, I have NEVER pressured him. His ex pressured him so maybe thats why he says he isnt sure. He is the one who brings it up!
But *I* do want a future with him. I want to be with the man I will marry.
Finding it all a bit hard, he just says be happy and enjoy what we have now as bf and gf.