Coming on too strong/Advice

[LSP24]

Tonight im going out on a second date with a girl i really like a lot. I found out from my friend today that she feels Im coming on too strong. How do I remedy this and what should I do on my date tonight?

Her and I known each other for the last couple of years, so its not like her and I are total strangers.

[Gribble]

Have you given her gifts? Anything more than chocolate and flowers at this stage would be coming on too strong. Also, what have you said to her? You need to curb your enthusiasm and take things slow. Think of her as more of a friend than a love interest right now. And don't listen to your goddamn emotions! Speak with your mind, not your "heart".

[LSP24]

I havent gotten her anything yet. I was going to get her some flowers, but my friend talked to her and she doesnt want any flowers.

The last thing I said to her was last night in a text message, which Im regreting; was I wished her a good night and that ill be seeing her tomarrow. I had one sleepless night last night.

Is there still a way i can still go forward with her? Cause I do really like her.

[misombra]

how old is she?

[LSP24]

Shes 19 and I'm 22.

[misombra]

she wants to be friends for a while. then when she's comfortable with you you can get her flowers.

[LSP24]

How should I treat it tonight?

Were going out to dinner, but I don't know what to do afterwards.

[LSP24]

Sorry for the double post. Should I apologise to her for coming on too much?

[alovehangoverr]

Hmmm.. I think instead of bringing up you coming on too strong and making it an issue, you should just try and remedy the situation.

Did you ask her friend what makes her say you're coming on too strong? Are you talking to her constantly? Are you telling her how great/wonderful/beautiful/etc you think she is?

[LSP24]

Nevermind. We had good time. I talked to my friend about it. Thank you everyone who posted their imputs though.

Requesting to close thread.

[GemStar]

My advice: Pay for dinner but do not offer as a gift any of the following: Wedding ring, box of condoms, results of any blood test you may have had, etc.