Inviting her home on second date

[katsi]

My problem may be simple for the others, but quite complicated for me. I dated a 16 year old girl in another country and told her to come visit me if she wants and visit my country as well. Well it happens so that she comes in a month, and I really like this girl. Though sometimes i may feel ignored from our messaging, I think she also has some interest in me, but I might be wrong, as she said she loves my country and the nation where I live. I am 20 year old and am not a virgin, but she might be. However I also feel sexually attracted to her, and would be hard to have her home without trying to seduce her. She is 16 and might still be virgin. She told me how she watched films like Shades of Grey and similar, so I start thinking that seducing her might not be a bad idea. But she is young and we dated just 1 time, what should I do? Thanks!

[pcmaster]

Meeting at home is a great place for a second date. 16 year old is enough of age to have sex, think in US you can sleep with 16 year old as long as you are not older than 23.

But yeah I ussualy dont try sex on second date, just kissing and making out, all sweet and nice things without sex. if you feel ready to have sex and if you see that she feels comfortable and dont resist, dont back down then go ahead and go for it. I think you just have to watch the girl during the kissing and as you go further and closer to have sex if shes comfortable with you advancing on her. Everyone can have sex with girl when she is not ready but I think it really counts when both want it equaly. Fact that she is a virgin dont matter - let her worry about that if she is cause you might be doing her favour and guiding into adult life if you have sex with her.

[Snow White]

I have always been very curious about this. What would a 20 year old man want with a 16 year old girl? I guess from your post, you make it quite obvious. Really? A 16 year old GIRL? One day you may have a daughter. Think about that. Why don't you date women your own age? It may not be illegal, but in my opinion, it should be,

[pcmaster]

Well 20 year old is still a kid. 16 year old is also a kid but it doesnt matter they both dont have high hormone levels raging in them. Guy cant be a father at 4 years of age so its not like she can be his dauther. 100 years ago 16 year old girl and 40 year old man would be normal. In fact 16 y.o. would be normal age to get married or go to war 100 years ago. These days kids grow up slower. When I was 15 I was thinking about having sex with my teachers, so I dont thing girl is so innocent.

[WiltedRose]

Being a mum of a 16 year old girl this does disturbs me. She is still a girl!

[dollhouse]

Exactly what, [MENTION=85848]WiltedRose[/MENTION] said above... why do you HAVE to have sex with her? Why not show her the city and area, maybe snuggle up watch a movie and leave it at that... especially if you know she is a virgin... Can be friendly, still have fun and not made advances too. Saying you want to seduce doesn't help.

[pcmaster]

Good point dollhouse. But then again girl might be interested in older guys because they have their own place to have sex and money to buy her booze.

But seriously I think home is a perfect place for a second date. I never have met girl who would be okay for sex with already on second date but I have kissed all girls I dated on a second date and had a nice snuggle and make out too with few.
Now I wouldnt even think about having sex with 16 year old when I was 20, but wouldnt care if she was 18. Still if they both okay with that then why not. OP is not gonna listen to anyone anyway but do what he wants.

[dollhouse]

[MENTION=42177]pcmaster[/MENTION]..that is true ..for all we know she wants to use him for sex too and go wild on a holiday... but for the fact she is so young and he is 20 he should be the one to be protective and do the right thing, no one says he can't kiss and cuddle etc but why does he automatically need to be thinking I. Must. Seduce. Her. ( That is a bit much at this point of things with them, especially if he thinks she is a virgin...) I wonder is she travelling there alone or with an adult ( parent)?

[pcmaster]

[MENTION=42177]pcmaster[/MENTION]..that is true ..for all we know she wants to use him for sex too and go wild on a holiday... but for the fact she is so young and he is 20 he should be the one to be protective and do the right thing, no one says he can't kiss and cuddle etc but why does he automatically need to be thinking I. Must. Seduce. Her. ( That is a bit much at this point of things with them, especially if he thinks she is a virgin...) I wonder is she travelling there alone or with an adult ( parent)?

Well its a summer and hot temperatures brings more raging hormones. Probably guy havent had a release for a good while and his mind is clouded with one thing - basic instinct.

It happened to me few days ago too. I was chatting with really sweet girl and she was so nice to me that I couldnt wait till first date, wanted already a second date to skip to sweet part and spend time with her kissing and snuggling.

[Hooo!]

I don't see the problem?
Girl comes to visit you
You like each other
You want to seduce her

What exactly is the problem?