No idea what to do.

[See-bee]

Hello all,

Thank you in advance for any help you are able to offer.

So, I met my Girlfriend about 2 years ago whilst going through a difficult time in my life. I would describe the relationship is ok.
I am a 30 year old male with a really good career; I know this will come across as big headed, but I feel that this relationship is holding me back financially.

My GF lives on a bit of an emotional spectrum (she agrees this) and there are times when I am very happy and things are going well, but there are also times, where she is have a low week, and will not leave the house, or open the curtains and even I feel really depressed.
I have been thinking about ending this relationship for the past 6 months but Im really worried about the position I have put here in. I bought a house and slowly but surely she has moved in, which actually went ok. However since moving in she made a comment about just how lucky she is that I let her move in, she has maxed out loans, maxed out credit cards and I have been trying my best to help her clear these / get on top of things.
She has just picked up a little part time job at the local Cinema working 12 hours a week but wont work anymore than that.
She doesn’t really have any friends, and definitely none that are in a position to help her if the relationship was to end. Also, she suffers from depression and anxiety and I am terrified of the effects ending the relationship will have on her. Her parents and her don’t really get on that well, so I can’t see much help there.

So I battle daily with keeping the relationship going, which is after all, OK, just to avoid the horrible consequences of ending it. I know that I should not think about things this way, but I am very financially motivated, and she is costing me a lot.
I know that this is a problem that I have, but I really want to do well in life, I want to own my own company, and I just can’t see this happening with her.

Believe me, I have hinted and we have argued about her working more, but it never seems to change anything. I am currently paying £500 a month for her credit card, £350 a month for her loan, £235 a month for her Car, and coving my own house and all of my bills.

And also, to make things worse, I have this feeling that if things end, and I get my separation, I’ll worry about her a lot, and after a couple of months, after getting into a solo routine and getting ontop of my own finances, I’ll miss her.

Do I keep an OK relationship going just to avoid the horrible consequences?

[Hooo!]

Do you want to live with her?