No idea what to do...

[TJC]

I'll try and keep this as simple as possible but it may not be easy so forgive me in advance please.

So, I'm a member of a forum. We're a close nit bunch, it's not a big place but we all know each other pretty well. I've met several of the members in real life before (including one of the lasses in my current predicament). The problem I'm having involves two of the lasses on this said forum that I really like. What to do about it is the problem.

Girl 1...
She's from Australia. 20 years old (21 in a couple of months time). Probably not the best of starts given I'm from England but bare with me here. We were, for a short period of time recently, in a relationship... as much as you can be on the internet. Not that I usually would have considered it but she really wants to move to the UK and is currently making plans to do so, hopefully by March next year. I should point out that this isn't specifically for me, she's wanting to do so anyway.

So, as you can tell, she knows I like her. Problem is, and rightly fully so looking back, she said we took things a little too fast. More to the point, she took things a little too fast as she's not entirely sure how she feels about me.

Girl 2...
She is from the north of England, about 2 hours away from me. She's 20 in May next year. We met for the first time on Sunday along with a few other folks off the forums. Here's where my head really begins to hurt. I like her also but I have absolutely no idea if she has any feelings back as I'm terrible at reading signs. She's a very touchy feely kind of person which makes it even more difficult to read into anything.

Whereas with Girl 1 who knows I like her, Girl 2 doesn't. So, the issue obviously is whether I tell her or not? I've been lucky with Girl 1 that we are still very good friends. I should also point out that Girl 2 knows about me and Girl 1 as well.

So, problem summery and what I need help on:
Do I wait to see when/if Girl 1 comes to the UK and see how things go?
Do I ask Girl 1 to lay her cards on the table?
Do I tell Girl 2 that I like her given this could make things awkward in the future?

Sorry if I've missed anything.

[devonbrown]

Do I wait to see when/if Girl 1 comes to the UK and see how things go?
Do I ask Girl 1 to lay her cards on the table?
Do I tell Girl 2 that I like her given this could make things awkward in the future?

1) No. Girl 1 is done. You tried a "relationship" and it didn't work out. And she said that she isn't sure about how she feels about you anymore either. Therefore, forget about Girl 1. Once she moves, if you two see each other in person and decide you want something, then that is fine, but that is 6 months away at least, so no use trying to predict the future.
2) No. See #1.
3) If you like Girl 2, let her know. If you don't tell her, then you will always wonder what if... So decide if wondering what if is better than potential awkwardness.

Good luck.

[bulrush]

First ask yourself, do you really want the frustrations of a relationship with someone who is a bad communicator? What I mean is, you shouldn't have to guess what she is feeling, so just ask her. She might be shy but when given a direct question, she is forced to answer.

[Wakeup]

What is all this talk about telling a girl that you like them so soon after meeting (and/or never having met due to distance) Good lord. Just ask girl number 2 out on a date and if she accepts then it means she is INTERESTED in getting to know you better one-on-one. If she declines then you have your answer without confessing false feelings that you can't obviously be sure of until you've actually spend face to face time with her.

As for Miss Australia. you've never met her and you're basing your feelings on words exchanged over the internet. Drop that and let her stay where she is, I doubt very much she'll even move there. Wth would someone leave Australia to live in the gray climate you inhabit? I say her words are just that and nothing more. Even If I'm wrong and she is moving to where you are, she's said she doesn't "feel" for you what she once did.

Get of the effing computer and maybe meet someone in the flesh who lives near by and you'll have a better idea about what feelings really are.

JMO.