So, 4 years ago this guy (let's call him Adam) and I began talking. We talked constantly and he flirted with me all the time. Stupidly, we decided to be friends with benefits Eventually though he decided he wanted to go out with a different girl. Their relationship only lasted 3 months and Adam and I decided to only be friends after. A few months later I started to go out with someone else (let's call him Mike). Fast forward 3 years and Mike and I are still together. And Adam and I are still friends. Mike and I have begun to start to talk about our future. We also moved into a house together last month. I also think he bought me an engagement ring because I found a ring sizing kit. Anyways, last week, Adam sends me a drunk text telling me that he made a mistake years ago. He's realized he doesn't think of me as a friend. He loves me. He's IN love with me. He's not going to do anything about it though because Mike made a commitment when he couldn't. Unfortunately, this has stirred up a lot of things in me. Adam has always been in my mind as the "what if" guy. But I pushed it into the back of my mind because of my love for Mike and because I thought Adam would never feel that way about me. I feel like a horrible person when I say this, but I don't know what to do.