I m Loosing myself.. Plz Help

[mis_am_87]

HEy friends, firstly a very big hi to all of you in here, it gives me immence pleasure to be a part of such a joyfull forum.

ok guys now coming back to the main point. there is this girl she is a very good friend of mine and we know each other from past 4 year and within this last 1 years she has changed my life totally, and she is now a best friend of mine and so i m of hers.
well lately there had been many unfortunate events happening in her family for which she is very upset and stuff, she always gives me a call in the mid night and talk about her problem, she feels relaxed when she tell her problems to me and i give her some advice and she feels better after that.
now my friends tell me that since you two each other so well and you two have such a good chemistry, why dont you ask her out. and i donno from when but i hav started liking her, now she means a lot to me. whenever she feels sad my heart crys for her, when ever she is happy i feel on top of the world.
i even text'd her once saying are you too shy to ask someone out and she said yes. i feel even she likes me, but i am not sure. now i dont have the guts to ask her out cause i feel this might ruin my friendship with her. but i just cant be her friend anymore and i want to go a step further than friendship. she had bad experiences in her love life before and so do i. friends i need your help in this situtaion as to what should i do. i havent got sleep from past one week and i m delimma .. i hope you all understand my situtation and give me some good advice.. i just cant be her friend anymore.. Please help me, before i take any wrong step... ..

Thankyou for your patient... Enjoy


Regards
Harry

[vashti]

I don't think a friendship based on unrequited love is an REAL friendship, so I think you should just man up and ask her. There is no magic that will make it "easy" for you. You would be taking a risk, but at least you would have some resolution afterwards.

BTW - don't do the "friends" thing if she turns you down unless you want to prolong your misery.

[Gigabitch]

Try to bring up the idea of what she would want in a boyfriend. If she likes you, she'll describe the thinks she likes about you. If she describes somebody who is not at all like you, it's time to start growing apart.

[neobodhi]

In situations like these, communication is important. Besides wouldn't you rather now? Seems like the longer you wait the harder it will be.