Did I insult him or is he not interested in me?

[Lavender]

So I've kinda had this mixed message thing going with a guy who always seems shy around me not initiating conversations unless i do and looking down at the floor when i talk to him. Funny thing is when we are "forced" into a situation where we have to sit near each other we have amazing chemistry and he totally relaxes and jokes around and teases me . At a dinner party last week we had such an occasion and we were having fun and talking and he was offering me some of his food. This guy was sitting near us and kept making comments like why don't we go out etc...and shy guy and i both ignored him and than he says "I feel likeI"m intruding on your date" and I guess i got scared that shy guy would feel pressured or uncomfotable and so I said"Well, I think you are imagining things" . 5 minutes later shy guy got up and walked over to the other end of the table and didn't comeback. Did i insult him or was he just feeling pressured that maybe he'd have to ask me out and high tailed it out of there?
Whats up here?

[King Zarathu]

So I've kinda had this mixed message thing going with a guy who always seems shy around me not initiating conversations unless i do and looking down at the floor when i talk to him. Funny thing is when we are "forced" into a situation where we have to sit near each other we have amazing chemistry and he totally relaxes and jokes around and teases me . At a dinner party last week we had such an occasion and we were having fun and talking and he was offering me some of his food. This guy was sitting between us and kept making comments like why don't we go out etc...and shy guy and i both ignored him and than he says "I feel likeI"m intruding on your date" and I guess i got scared that shy guy would feel pressured or uncomfotable and so I said"Well, I think you are imagining things" . 5 minutes later shy guy got up and walked over to the other end of the table and didn't comeback. Did i insult him or was he just feeling pressured that maybe he'd have to ask me out and high tailed it out of there?
Whats up here?

Ouch! You asshole!

[King Zarathu]

I'm inclined to believe he does have an interest in you.

Perhaps he's at ease when in a forced situation because he perceives that the two of you really had no choice, so he's in no danger of annoying or offending you. Shy otherwise (when you are not forced together)? Perhaps he is worried that he might "screw up" and fall into your disfavor.

Regarding the "imagining things" comment, hearing that would certainly be disheartening if he had his sights on you. On the other hand, I've run away from situations in which I felt I might be pressured into doing something that would end up making me look like an ass.

In short, I think he was feeling pressured and decided to defuse the situation in the safest way possible.

In other words, you're an asshole.

[King Zarathu]

I'm modest, and there are few things I excel at, but that is one of them.

No I meant Lavender is an asshole.

[vashti]

Isn't it too bad you always think of better things to say *after* the fact? YOu should have said something like: "sadly, no - I haven't been able to get him to ask me out on a date yet".

[Gigabitch]

Isn't it too bad you always think of better things to say *after* the fact? YOu should have said something like: "sadly, no - I haven't been able to get him to ask me out on a date yet".

You are soooo coy! Can you flirt like that in person? That's awesome. I can flirt passably well, better than Lavender anyway, but this kind of stuff is out of my league.

Lavender, just ask the guy out already. At least you'll have an answer.

[Mathias]

Yeah, that was a pretty crappy move if you wanted to get him.

[vashti]

You are soooo coy! Can you flirt like that in person?

Not unless I am drinking.

[Gigabitch]

Not unless I am drinking.

Speaking of drinking.....I am off to the bar!

[vashti]

Speaking of drinking.....I am off to the bar!

I wish I could join you. Have fun - are you going with caliboy? (Is that THIS weekend?)

[Gigabitch]

I wish I could join you. Have fun - are you going with caliboy? (Is that THIS weekend?)

Nope, next. I'm going with my rotten favorite friend Lissie.

[vashti]

I think rotten friends are the best kind. Be careful driving.

[Gigabitch]

I think rotten friends are the best kind. Be careful driving.

I don't actually drink all that much, usually. I just like going out.

[King Zarathu]

I don't actually drink all that much, usually. I just like going out.

Hippie .

[jurupa]

Nope, next. I'm going with my rotten favorite friend Lissie.

Maybe I should come along.....................