Uhhh.. problem and i need advice...

[CrazyPucker]

Well im 18 and my girlfriend is 16. We hang out whenever i dont have work, which is usually about 3-4 times a week usually about 6 hours a day. If there is ever a day where i want to hang out with friends instead of her she gets mad and gives me an attitude about it, and will say things like "you dont want to hang out with me anymore??!!" or "Ok fine just hang out with them all week then".... She claims i hang out with them everyday at school and then i proceed to explain that it is different.....Anyways i got mad at her about it today..We were talking abiout it and she is like completley unwilling to compromise and i asked her if she still saw a counslar she used to see because i seriously wanted her to ask about it because i wanted professional advice and out of nowhere she started bursting into tears....(this last part is over the phone) i am baffled and want some advice on this stuff.... thanks you guys.... we've been together for 10 months also......

[The Great OV!!!]

Counseling? ...she is 16 man, she just wants all the attention and thinks since she is your girlfriend that she deserves it. Which I think she does, usually when my friends get a girlfriend I never see them again...till some break up happens and I get a phone call....kind of funny. Anyways, 16...that is young for big words like compromise and counseling lol.

[CrazyPucker]

no she USED to be in counsling lol...im not sure what for but she has an anxiety problem so that is probably why, never went into detail about it...

[vashti]

She wants to spend every minute with you because she is extremely insecure, but it isn't healthy and you should definitely set some boundaries. You are hanging out with her WAY too much. Don't you guys have homework to do? Tell her you need to stop spending so much time with her or you need to break up. She is supposed to enhance your life, not monopolize it entirely or prevent you from having other interests. Be firm about it, and mean it when you say it.

[The Great OV!!!]

She wants to spend every minute with you because she is extremely insecure, but it isn't healthy and you should definitely set some boundaries. You are hanging out with her WAY too much. Don't you guys have homework to do? Tell her you need to stop spending so much time with her or you need to break up. She is supposed to enhance your life, not monopolize it entirely or prevent you from having other interests. Be firm about it, and mean it when you say it.

Vash, always with the good advice. What if she has no car and can't get out of the house butreally wants to? Isn't the boyfriend supposed to be good for at least that?

Meh, I was always brought up that friends are over-rated and will stab you in the back the first chance they get.

[A-GAME]

Man, you really should find out away to tell her that you also have a life beside being her boyfriend...being in love doesn't mean to forfiet all your friends and interests just to hang out with your lover. Your girlfriend has a right to be there with her, but so does your friends. Maybe then you would convince her that you would spend more time with her than with your friends. But she should know that she must not make her guy abandon all his life just for her... This isn't some kinda fairy tale.

Maybe because she's only 16 she's becoming so paranoid about it and stuff... try to be patiant with her, I guess she needs time.

[vashti]

Vash, always with the good advice. What if she has no car and can't get out of the house butreally wants to? Isn't the boyfriend supposed to be good for at least that?

Meh, I was always brought up that friends are over-rated and will stab you in the back the first chance they get.

Genuinely good friends won't stab you in the back, and they require a certain amount of interaction.

If she wants to get out but has no car, tell her to ask her mom or dad for a ride. I drive my kids everywhere. That is my job.

[Charlie Boy]

A toddler playing with a plastic bag sounds less suffocating than your girlfriend. I can't stand girls like that. And I can't stand when mates get sucked into that shit.

If you're intent on going out with her you're going to have to push her out into the big world. Maybe drop her at the pool and tell her you're not taking her home again until she's made at least two friends. **** I don't know, limit the number of times you see each other to two days a week.

But I'd get rid of her. In my experience these chicks don't change, they just behave more and more badly.