having trouble between galfrnd and porn

[kingred]

Hello
I am new to this site
I am having some problems
Some problems regarding my relationships
Well I am a Guy of age 19
And I am in love and in fact I am engaged to a girl who is my love
We both love each other
But the problem is that, few days back in the past she was having some family works to do, for which she went to her home town
Now she came back and nothing is changed in her
But I found some change in myself
She was not here for 5 months or so
And I got addicted to some ill habits like masturbation and watching porn
I was really guilty for the sin I committed but I never thought it would lead to such circumstances
I, with great courage told her the truth
She is a good woman and a decent woman who really thinks these things are big sins
And may be that made her very angry for this shameless act of mine

She was so angry with me that she was not talking to me, not even listening to me
She once went to the limits of throwing away her engagement ring
She says that this is just the starting of our relation and I am watching nude gals in other sence i am commiting adultry
Might be later I might be more worst
Like a true adulterer

She is not only angry but the saddest thing is that -she is also sad-

But that is not the only case
At one side were she is so angry and sad with me
At the other side I am not able to quit that habit and when ever I do that (watch porn), I remember of her and later feel guilty
I some times feel frustrated and even argue with her when she says that porn is a sin because she never allows me to have sex with her and then how am I going to control my self
To that she says that did I engage her for love or lust and again goes back to the same mode
Man!!! it looks very difficult

Plz help me
Am I not right?
Approx. 9 months passed by out engagement and she feels it awkward even when I touch her
She says it is a sin or all that
When I do something like porn she says I do not love her
And now help me
Watt to do to make her happy and understand me

[zro]

stop being a sap, 99% of males masturbate, the other 1% lie - to be honest its not a big ****ing deal

some studies say its not healthy not to have some sort of "relieve" whether it sex or masturbation, whether its true or not....i dont ****ing know, bit its certainly NOT a sin to have a wank

Now about this habit, do you watch porn alot, and by alot i mean on a daily basis? are you watching some ****ed up shit like with kids or crazy shit like that? if you answer no, then you have no problem, most guys who have access to porn would use it, heck i do, but as long as it is not interferring with your responsibilities and you are not some ****ed up prevert, you should be alright.

How do you sort things out with the missus?? dont really know, maybe get her to watch it with you, probably better getting advice for this question from the females on this board

[Only-virgins]

what is a galfrnd?

[Tiay]

ill habits like masturbation and watching porn

ill habits? ok, wtf? masturbation is completely healthy. both men and women masturbate, it is COMPLETELY normal and has no adverse health effects, in fact it is a great stress reliever. Some people even start masturbating in early childhood, so how can it be a sin? Without choosing to masturbate of their own free will, boy's bodies even ejaculate while they're sleeping, so how can it be a sin?
There's even [URL="http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3072021.stm"]research[/URL] to show that men who masturbate have less risk of cancer. Your body produces and stores seminal fluid and it can actually build up in the prostate if you go a long time without ejaculating. It isn't really a problem, like you wont explode or anything, but sudies show that men who ejaculate more are less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer.
apparently, masturbation also stimulates the immune system.. hm, I hadn't heard that before myself.
But best of all, masturbation puts you in control of your own sexual pleasure- you don't need to be dependent on any other person.

as for porn. well, within normal limits it's ok; but don't get dependent on it. Don't watch porn every time you masturbate, or eventually the two will go together so much you wont like to masturbate without porn, and that'd be just sad.

[Tiay]

oh, and masturbation is NOT adultery, and does NOT lead to adultery- quite the opposite, actually..

as for your girlfriend.. hold it! you're 19 and engaged?? yikes, that's way too soon! If there's no way to convince her that masturbation is healthy and normal and NOT a sin, and you stay with her, then you're letting yourself in for a life of feeling guilt and shame for doing and wanting something that should really be considered a gift from god, not a sin.

masturbation should be something a loving couple can share. for instance I love telling my boyfriend about the last time i've masturbated and what I was thinking of and what I was doing, etc. Wouldn't you love to be like that with your girlfriend, and for her to not judge you?

[Ephemeral Dream]

oh, and masturbation is NOT adultery, and does NOT lead to adultery- quite the opposite, actually..

as for your girlfriend.. hold it! you're 19 and engaged?? yikes, that's way too soon! If there's no way to convince her that masturbation is healthy and normal and NOT a sin, and you stay with her, then you're letting yourself in for a life of feeling guilt and shame for doing and wanting something that should really be considered a gift from god, not a sin.

masturbation should be something a loving couple can share. for instance I love telling my boyfriend about the last time i've masturbated and what I was thinking of and what I was doing, etc. Wouldn't you love to be like that with your girlfriend, and for her to not judge you?

By the looks of it, he seems to have a religious background, and masturbation IS in fact a sin. How can you believe in God but think masturbation isn't a sin? That's just taking the best parts out of something and not going on with the whole package.

Back on topic, what you did was a brave thing. You could of taken it to your grave, and nobody would ever know what happened. Try telling your girlfriend that. Tell her that you did it because you were lonely and didn't want to cheat on her, she should appreciate that.

I hope she understands.

[Tiay]

By the looks of it, he seems to have a religious background, and masturbation IS in fact a sin. How can you believe in God but think masturbation isn't a sin? That's just taking the best parts out of something and not going on with the whole package.

good point. But we're already doing that. for instance we've discovered that women are not "defective and misbegotten". My point is there's a LOT of stuff in "the whole package" that is already being ignored. Why not this also, seeing as we now know that masturbation is natural?

[LostNotFound]

are you religious? what religion are you?

ok i can understand where shes going with the pron thing but not the masturbation. you should tell her to try it lol just kidding.

[vashti]

By the looks of it, he seems to have a religious background, and masturbation IS in fact a sin. How can you believe in God but think masturbation isn't a sin? That's just taking the best parts out of something and not going on with the whole package.

Masturbation is NOT universally considered a sin, and the passage you are referring to is NOT about masturbation, but about being willfully disobedient to god.

Like everything else in the bible, it is all a matter of interpretation.

[Junket]

So what if it's a sin?

Like she's never sinned before?

Who is she to judge anyway, like she knows what it's like to have a dick singing between her legs.

Your girlfriend is dumb.

Straight up.

[enterprise]

\like she knows what it's like to have a dick singing between her legs.

Yours Sings ....Cool

[Junket]

Well shit, that's a pretty bad mistake right there.

Ahem, SWINGING*.

Man, I wish mine could sing.

[enterprise]

Well shit, that's a pretty bad mistake right there.

Ahem, SWINGING*.

Man, I wish mine could sing.

Mine can't sing...but it can play the theme from starwars.

[Gribble]

All mine does is spit.

[vashti]

OV's got a singing penis. It hums, too. Just ask him.