So I've been having this very complicated non-relationship with this guy and it's recently become even more complicated. Our original relationship was basically "friends with benefits," though we both were guilty of acting like we were actually dating. I mean, PDA, terms of endearment, spending just about every day together, talking about possible future together...these are all symptoms of a relationship.
Then he did a complete 180 and broke my heart into a thousand pieces. I don't want to rehash it but let's just say it involves untrue rumors, some skanky fat girl, and the military. I was more pissed off than I have ever been in my life.
Just when I thought I was just about over him and all the shit he put me through, he had to come crawling back. I'd already deleted him from my phone, for chrissakes, to insure that I wouldn't make any pathetic drunken calls to him.
He's so charismatic that it's almost scary. He actually talked me out of being mad at him, to the point that...things between us have started up again. Only it's worse this time because it's so much more impersonal. This time, it really is "just sex" and barely friendship. It didn't start out like that. When we first started talking again, he was really nice, just like he used to be. As soon as I had sex with him, he went all evil again.
We weren't trying to have sex again. It just kind of happened. We both were genuinely trying to be just friends and this physical attraction keeps getting in the way. Whenever we were still "just friends" and we hadn't started sleeping together again quite yet, all we talked about was how hard it was to not have sex and that didn't help.
I want to end this soo badly but I just don't know how I'm going to muster the strength to do it. He hit me when I was still weak and still hurting. I'm not ready to be friends with him, yet, let alone anything less or anything more. That is, unless he finally realizes that I'm perfect for him and starts treating me right. That will never happen because he's a douche. And, yet, I like him quite painfully a lot anyway.
What's wrong with me?
I mean that question in two different ways:
What's about me made him so suddenly stop liking me?
Why can't I just get it through my head that he's an asshole who's not worth my time?
So confused.