Can anyone relate?

[Sensetive]

Let's say you've been together 6 - 12 months, you two are extreamly close to eachother and your always telling eachother how much you love eachother. you two share everything with eachother and are not affriad to tell her anything. she tells you she would never let anything get between you two and you love the way she loves you and you trust she would never let anything destroy what you two have. In this case were not able to see eachother much but we were committed to keeping our relationship going and i felt so close to her and that she was close to me.

when suddenly out of no where her feelings change and she no longer seems committed to our relationship. she just goes on about how it might not work out as if she doesn't care as much. she says it doesn't feel the same....and seems to make no effort to make it better and tries to turn it against me by saying i've changed because "don't kiss her as much anymore"(which i know i havent, i had many explinations for why i might not have been kissing her as much but it was literaly nothing) and than she just....dumps you and gives up completely and says it's not working out. this all happens within a week of her sudden change in feeling. it almost seems like the her before her change doesn't exist anymore and that you don't feel like youre talking to that lovable careing committed person anymore when you are. I did everything when she was down to try to make it better, but nothing worked and i was very patient with the way she had been acting

I don't think i'm feeling alot of the pain right now, i find it hard to beleive it's happening it just feels so weird

anyway thanks for reading i hope to see some comments, maybe some of you have experianced something like this before, or know what could have caused her feelings to change so suddenly

[lastwish]

If there is indeed nothing you can think of that might have caused her to behave this way maybe ur dealing with a sociopath or psychopath. They can't relate to other people's feelings. They don't care if they made you feel like crap.

[DoesntMatter]

Nope, can't relate. And I'm glad

[bohemiandonut]

Actually I can relate. I had a girlfriend in high school who seemed to just suddenly go berserk (i.e. dump me) out of nowhere. In her case she was:
A: On birth control
B: Discontinuing her use of antipsychotics on her own terms and
C: Kiiiiiiiind of insane.

If your ex has neither of these going for her than it's almost a guarantee that she met someone else. Either that or some sort of imminent change in her future has caused her to reevaluate her past. But the kissing thing is weird. It sounds to me like you should employ

NO CONTACT (hint: search query)

if you want her back. The more you chase the less likely she is to change her mind.

[lastwish]

if you want her back. The more you chase the less likely she is to change her mind.

ya...true. I am so fed up with people who needs to be manipulated in order for them to love you.

[MadKat]

Saying is easier than done, but u to keep your cool.
Let her fix her own head, while meantime u analyze where goes wrong.
BUT as you said...

I don't think i'm feeling alot of the pain right now

Maybe you also have a change of heart. Time to think

[Sensetive]

Thanks alot for the replies guys, i need more help, i am going to take your advice on no contact but look. last night(before i posted this) i was talking to her about how upset i was and how she was like a totally different person and whatnot...than after she said she's going to bed i'd said "you don't even care do you" and this morning she replied with


I don't understand guys....over 8 months...after all we had been through, we had many hard times and we always loved eachother enough to make it through them we were so strong and within 1 week she suddenly stops loving me? or caring? is this even possible? i takes me months apart from someone to get over them Is it possible she was infatuated with me and didn't love me just thought she did and it just wore off and there was no feelings left? it just doesn't make any sence we were so close we told eachother everything. she always told me how confortable she was around me and how she felt like she could tell me anything. this is more just confusion than pain right now, it just doesn't make any sence to me

thanks for any support guys

[MadKat]

I think is wise to give her time to think.
When the storm gone, then only you ask her wad happen.

[Gooshball_oxx]

Okay,, thing is i never stopped loving or caring or any of that nonsense everyone seems to think;; Everything was getting difficult to deal with. All the stress was getting to me, things at home were falling apart because of the shit i did to be able to see you, then you were acting weird and stopped kissing me, then i mention it and you kiss me again but stop cuddling with me,, it seemed as if you stopped loving me then my feelings started to change and then as always i tried doing the easiest thing possible; run away from my problems... Thats what i do best..... And im so sorry that it ended this way but its what was best for us i guess ='( I really, truely am sorry i hurt you but i got hurt to,,, i just,,, i dono. ='(