Hello everyone,
I have been together with my GF for 7 years. We have lived together
5 years now. I asked her to Marry me NYE '04, she said yes. We have not been married yet due to financial problems. I have been having trouble keeping/finding steady work for 2 years now. I am picky about the jobs I take and want high income to be able to afford the nice wedding she deserves. I would find a great job and then BAM 5 months later, laid off. We have worked through rough times in the past and thought that we could survive anything. I was convinced that we were forever.
UNTIL Last night.
After going out last night we pull up the the front of the house and I'm not in a very good mood. I've been out of work again for awhile. Anyway, So she asked me if I remember the talk we had along time ago about being honest about everything and if we wanted to break up to go our own way to just come out in the open. Well BAM guess what she was out with her sister yesterday for hours and hours which is unusual and she is moving into her house, leaving me. Plan is already in motion with no room for discussion. I am blown away. I took the news pretty cool (I was dying on the inside but didn't let it show) Show when I ask why she said and this is where I need all the female translation.
Me: Why?
Her: I just can do it anymore, me working all the time and you stuck at home searching.
Me: Is that it?
Her: I just can't do it anymore, It don't change Its always the same. I don't want to start to resent you and have guilty thoughts and possibly lead to cheating. (My jaw is still on my lap)
Me: WOW
I suddenly realized she has been wearing perfume to work. My immediate thought is that she is going to cheat as soon as she gets out of our house.
I asked her if she was going to cheat and she said no that has nothing to do with it. I asked a bunch of questions to try and catch her in a lie and my lie detector skills gave the seal of approval. So then it went to this:
Her: We have been struck for so long and I just need a change, I thought it would be best just to go and have some time to ourselfs, to find ourselfs so we can try to find each other again.
Me: I said I hope thats a plan to stay together and if it is I'm all for it and I hope it works.
She handed me my engagement ring and I refused it so, she put it on the other hand, the wrong hand. I could not believe it.
She asked if it's ok to stay until she gets her stuff to her sisters house and I said yes. She slept like a baby, I drank all the beer in the house and tried to take it all in.
So any translation/advice would be grateful.
Thanks for reading, I just needed to get that out.