Forgotten how to cry...

[misombra]

crying gets the river flowing.

[1averagejoe]

crying gets the river flowing.

I'd like to float down to your river...




just kidding

[DoesntMatter]

But if you are alone and are dealing with something truly sad or stressful in your life, it's healthy to cry. Holding it in is NOT healthy. It compounds your anxiety.

What I'm trying to tell you is that crying faded out from being a natural response. There just isn't any urge for me to cry at sad things, it's not holding back anything

[shh!]

People express sadness in many ways. On 9/11, I was astounded by the number of people who weren't crying. (I was.)

[DoesntMatter]

I remember being high-strung for a while after 9/11

[lesa]

I wasn't talking about crying because an event is sad. I mean crying because you feel one coming but you hold it back. Not everyone cry for the same things. I used to work at vet office and I've seen grown mature men cry for their animals. I've seen police officers cry for their police dog, and I've seen the staff cry too. Meanwhile I'm standing there as the only one not expressing emotions. That is not the same as when I feel like crying but holding it in even in privacy.

[Joker]

I want to reittirate that I have forgotten how to cry...

The other night after posting that I felt the worse I had in years and just wanted to cry, but I was unable to, despite my eyes welling up and feeling all the symptoms of crying...it was like I was crying but somehow the tears wouldn't flow...

-The other night when my heart was broken by the one person I cared about most...
-When my grandma died
-When one of my best friends went missing and was later found dead...

I felt bad at those times, but I couldn't cry...

It's such a realise and I just have forgotten the mechanism that makes the tears flow...

[Cain]

I want to reittirate that I have forgotten how to cry...

The other night after posting that I felt the worse I had in years and just wanted to cry, but I was unable to, despite my eyes welling up and feeling all the symptoms of crying...it was like I was crying but somehow the tears wouldn't flow...

-The other night when my heart was broken by the one person I cared about most...
-When my grandma died
-When one of my best friends went missing and was later found dead...

I felt bad at those times, but I couldn't cry...

It's such a realise and I just have forgotten the mechanism that makes the tears flow...

It's not something you just control. You either cry or you don't. You can try to tough it out to stop it, but if you don't cry often, that's how you were going to be regardless of whether or not you tried to be tough. Shh! said that she cries easily and I bet she never forgets how regardless of how hard she may try sometimes.

[Mish]

It's such a realise and I just have forgotten the mechanism that makes the tears flow...

Have you tried cutting onions? Do you cry then?

If you don't then the problem is physical, if you do then it's psychological.

[lesa]

I agree 100% with what Mishanya said. I think some people lack working tear ducts, etcs. You can tests it out by trying an object like onions and blowing a fan in face without blinking. I think it could be physical but if not then it is psychological.

[Nice Lover Boy]

I use to cry alot...but without the voices or any weird noises. I just stay quiet and let the tears come down. Now and days, tears don't come down, but instead I get very angry. Its not like me, people who knew me back then will think I have an anger problem and I need to cry to feel better. Its my dilema..

[shh!]

I'd question if this "problem" is physiological - he said his eyes well up, implying he makes tears.

Do you normally have a problem with watery eyes?

[misombra]

everybody cries.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91euxMQ0Zyg"]YouTube - R.E.M. - Everybody Hurts[/ame]

[lesa]

Now and days, tears don't come down, but instead I get very angry. Its not like me, people who knew me back then will think I have an anger problem and I need to cry to feel better. Its my dilema..

emotionally disturbed?

[Nice Lover Boy]

emotionally disturbed?

I guess so.
had a rough life and had to learn to live with it until now.