ok so i kno someone posted a thread similiar to this and i replied to it with part of my story, but heres the whole thing..
ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i love him very very much. we started dating when i was 17, and he was 18. we are now 20 and 21. we have a very serious relationship, and it has been like this for most of the time we have been together. this was my first 'real' relationship. i wasnt so sure about it or how a relationship worked, but as the years went on, i got the hang of it.
we get along great. all of our friends tell us that if they ever get in a relationship they want to be just like us. we're part of each others families (him more part of mine since he basically lives with me when we are at home, we're at college now and dorm separately) but we are together almost 24/7 either way. here at school we do have more time apart, but not at home, since he lives with my in my room. but anyway..
even though i was almost always shy, i've had numerous guys tell me they like me or are attracted to me in one way or another. this is before my relationship, and and lately its been happening more and more. i would like to go out and meet new people and try new things and not have any serious attachments to anybody, but right now, i cant.
i love my boyfriend soooo much and cant really imagine myself in a relationship with anyone else. we talked about marriage and kids and everything. he already got a proposal in mind but he wont give me details (duh). a year or two ago, i was looking forward to all of this, but as time goes on, i seem to get more nervous about the whole idea. i've dated people before him, but now i feel like i want to be independent for a little while. i dont want to lose him completely... just temporarily, as stupid as that sounds. i dont expect him to just wait around, but... i dont know...
over the summer i tried to talk to him and 'take a break' but that didn't work out because he was extremely upset and after all the talking and everything, he talked me out of it. a friend of mine keeps telling me to just take a break because i need it, but at the same time he told me that he is interested in me, so i tend to his brush his advice away. he told me: would i rather have a tumor now that i can possible fix, or would i just wait til it gets to cancer (marriage) when it will be even worse if i feel he same way. he knows my bf and sees that hes clingy. my best friend also told me to take a break if im not completely happy, but its just so hard. i dont want to lose him forever... he sed he doesnt believe in 'breaks' and if we break up there is no way of getting back together ever again and he will hate me. im sorry for sounding stupid/selfish and for making this so long. any advice...?