We do like each other, but he wont make a move?

[Audrina]

I have known this guy alittle more then a year now. We met at school and we only had like one class together, but I saw him alot during the day. We really did not hang out much at the start of the year, and I mean, we just didnt talk or anything but we started to talk more as the year went on and we became friends. I lived kind of far from my school..so we didnt really hang out that much outside of the school week but we would just start talking after school and stuff and we would see eachother at games and school events and I can tell he likes me and I like him but he never asked me out...( in that girlfriend way). He was dating some one for alittle last year and I was kinda talking to this guy but both relationships for us really didnt go far. We had a long talk at Graduation and he was like...Audrina, I really like you and I am happy that we became friends...and I think your such a great person...always be yourself...cause you are definitely a one of a kind. He gave me a hug and all this..but never like made any move or anything. I was like...what? Like...the moment was there and it just didnt happen.

Since we both graduated, I actually moved out of my house for college and we live in the same town now...he goes to a diffrent school then me now , but he has his own place too...so... I see him still all the time. The thing is, when I do see him...I mean we flirt with eachother, like we playfight and stuff...and we are always joking around with eachother and we laugh all the time. He's always messing with my cell phone...trying to take pictures of me...and we have taken lots of photos together..and he is always like, if there is a group of people or if like were all taking pictures and then I'll leave for a drink or something..he'll be like..."Audrina, get over here!...We were taking pictures right??".... and he has this one that he framed. He has it near his computer. I mean, I just don't see most guys as the type to take time to "Frame" a photo of them and some one else, if they did not really care about the person, or want to think about that other person. It is a photo just of the two of us too. It is like all the signs are there that he wants us to have a relationship..but he wont make any moves. I just dont understand. Am I doing something wrong maybe? We are both Single. Is he scared of a commitment?

[blondeee]

Seems like you might be heading towards the danger zone (FRIENDS/BROTHER/SISTER)... Maybe he's just the type of person that doesn't make a move. Maybe you should try. Maybe he doesn't think you want anything to happen. You should drop little hints here and there.. If there is chemistry there then it should unfold on it's own. He might just be shy or scared of rejection? Put the ball in your court and tell him how you feel!!!

[kitty001]

It sounds like he's into you but he's shy. Try making the first move. How about saying something like "you know...you're really cute" one day to him. If he likes you and wants to try being more than just friends, you'll know it by how he responds. If not, it's always nice to compliment people

[Audrina]

I really do like him, but I just felt like since there were so many times that he could have said something to me, and did not....that maybe he just does not look at me that way and I didnt want to risk bringing everything up. But I really do want us to give eachother a chance..so It looks like I am just going to have to start talking, If I want us to have anything...I guess before someone else grabs him. =/

[Hollywood]

Sounds like he's not looking at her in that way. Even by reading the story I didn't get the vibe that he wants to you in that way. Sounds like a best friendship is going on versus a road to romance.

[agatha]

I think that he likes friendship more than commitment with you.
Maybe hes thinking that it is more nicer when you are just friends than lovers. Treatment of friends is different from treatment of a lover. There is really a big difference....

I can also sense that hes happier with you now though you are not lovers.

[jackandcoke]

Do it!!! I wish girls would be more aggressive sometimes and not wait for the guy to ask them out.

[TheGreek]

I agree with jackandcoke. Go for it!!! If he's like me, then he's afraid to tell you because he's afraid of your reaction. He thinks that if you want it to be just friends and he wants more that it will ruin the relationship between y'all and he would rather have in his life as a friend than not in it at all. Go for it. An assertive girl is definitely a turn-on!

[Bokonon]

I agree, go for it! I used to be someone a girl would have to beat on the head with a love club (tm) before I'd realize she was interested in me. Gradually increase the obviousness of your feelings for him until you get some kind of reaction... It sounds like he's into you.

[lightwhite]

TELL HIM. i had a similar situation with one of my friends now i think i lost her

[carl1222]

I think that those who are saying he doesn't think of you that way are forgetting your ages ... around 18 -19, right?

Lots of young guys are shy at his age, and his flirtation with you, etc. doesn't sound like you're in his friend-zone at all. All he may need is an absolutely clear signal that you won't reject his romantic advances.

Next time you see him, run up to him, give him a big hug and plant a big kiss on his cheek. Ask him to go somewhere with you, and when you walk together, move closer to him and come just short of grabbing his hand (i.e., brush the back of your hand against the back of his and leave it there). That should give him the courage to hold your hand ... and he'll find it much easier to be confident with you after that.

Carl.

[TheGreek]

Next time you see him, run up to him, give him a big hug and plant a big kiss on his cheek. Ask him to go somewhere with you, and when you walk together, move closer to him and come just short of grabbing his hand (i.e., brush the back of your hand against the back of his and leave it there). That should give him the courage to hold your hand ... and he'll find it much easier to be confident with you after that.

Carl.

Couldn't agree more. I'm the type of guy that needs stupid obvious signals like these to do something. Though I am getting better

[carl1222]

Listen to Greek, Audrina ... he's in your age range.

[TheGreek]

Unfortunately, I doubt she's coming back. Last login was September 24th.

[carl1222]

Hahaha ... I have to remember to check the original post date! There was an active thread in here last week where the original post was in 2004!!!

Carl.