met this guy 2 months ago at work, we became friends and started hanging out outside of work. went out a few times to pubs, concerts, etc, and i told him i had a crush on him. he told me he had thought about it but we shouldnt do that. we continued to be friends, and a few days later, i spent the night at his house, and we cuddled all night. still friends, then a week later, spent the night again. the other night, we were hanging out and he told me that i was amazing and kept saying "how could you not have known how i feel?", and other sweet little nothings. we havent had sex. we still work together, and are still friends, and that is apparently all we are to him, because he only calls every few days and when he does, i find it hard to talk to him because i am scared to show him how i feel just to get turned down again. sometimes he acts like he's in love with me, but other times he acts like the idea of us being more than just friends makes him sick. this man is 27 years old, its not like he's a stupid teenager. any insight into whats going on here? should i just roll with it? i cant just be his friend.