Dont know what to do Help needed!!

[Garch001]

Hello hope you all are doing well.


well i met this girl that i feel in love with. but there is a huge problem she is Engaged we talk to each other alot she knows that im interested and she said she is too she talks to me more that she does to her fiancee because from what i see he is ignoring her ( always at work even if he works for his dad) not even going out for lunch, i have been talking to her for about 4 months now, anyways now i dont know what is going on she says she is affraid of losing both which does not make sense to me but i can understand.. but what should i do when she asked me for advice?? she tells me what should i do.... i respond with i cant force u to make any choice but i want u to know that i would love to be with you. and also that you should make the choice that makes you happy



The longer story is at the bottom ... and thanks alot for any help












well im in a bit of a problem at the moment I met this girl over the summer which i knew before but not that well, anyways i was really interested in her for a while about 2 years ago i wanted to talk to her they told me she was engaged and so i backed off. now this summer i heard that she was not so i said let me talk to her it started of kind of well i sent her an email on facebook to ask her out after i talked to her in the street for a bit.

so she didnt answer me back for about 2 weeks then i saw her because my cousin is close with her family so i was always with my cousin and i kept showing up with him alot of times but i found out she is going to get engaged in a week so i backed off and was ashamed i send the email to her and knew why she didnt reply, so long story short i got invited to her engagement i didnt go my cousin calls me told me she got really mad that i didnt go and her face was like someone smacked her. anyways i went late. now i left out of town for school and i talk to her on msn alot it started slow but i told her im really interested and she said the same but she is confused so we just kept talking and its been 4 months now and we talk more and more each day. but its getting to a point where it is effecting me alot i dont know what she wants she talks to me more than her fiancee and mainly because he ignores her alot because of his job he is always at work and only sees her like 2-3 times a week.

[Tedel]

mm...

OK, the bright side is that she's not married yet. Theoretically, you still have a right of trying something. The ugly side is that she's not just another guy's girlfriend. They're engaged!

If I were you, I would respect the fact she's engaged and move on. Maybe you feel that you are in love, but infatuations can also last 4 months or more. Getting married is not a decision you take in a moment of emotion. You have to think it well, and quite likely, she has.

Just an opinion.

[excowho]

OK, the bright side is that she's not married yet. Theoretically, you still have a right of trying something. The ugly side is that she's not just another guy's girlfriend. They're engaged!

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Leave her alone.

Right before marriage people get sketch and aren't sure if its right because they question the relationship more then ever.
Don't break up this couple just because she's at her weakest point.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

mm...

OK, the bright side is that she's not married yet. Theoretically, you still have a right of trying something.

Tedel, I have to disagree with that statement. Whether or not they are married, they're still in a relationship. He needs to back off regardless and remove himself from being in this love triangle. It will prevent future unnecessary drama.