Just another update

[BFTrick]

Hello there,

I haven't been on here in ages (maybe 2-3 months?). Feels weird to be here again.

I just ended a relationship. It was less than a week away from 6 months long.

I feel a little bit foolish. I gave her time to become the person I ( / we both) wanted her to be. She said she could be that person. She said she could change. I felt i owed her the time to be that person. But, after a certain point you just have to give up. I finally reached that point today.

I also feel horrible, I feel like I could have prevented this situation if I was stricter in the beginning. Her feelings would have been less hurt. She was in an awful state today. I could have broken up with her a while ago, but I just didn't want things to end. I didn't want to end something without giving it a try. So we tried and tried and tried. But by that time almost 6 months have passed. And we have become attached to each other. It was a very unpleasant breakup.

I know I will be fine. Some lost sleep is all. I hope she does fine, she gets very emotional. She called me and said she was moving out of the state. I hope she wasn't serious.

As awful as everything is. I feel it is for the best, and that gives me some hope, some silver lining to the dark clouds.

[SexySam]

Hmmmm. I am new here, but I dont think I really understand what you are saying. She had to do all the changing, to be the "woman" that you both knew she could be? And there was no changing you and the "man" that she thought you should be?

Sorry, this is not meant to be rude, but I dont understanding being in a relationship where only one person has to do all the changing.. My thoughts only..

[beans28]

Unless you mean changes in the sense that she cant go around with other guys - then i would get it.

But i dont think your in the right relationship if someone has to change who they are for the relationship to work. In that case - it NEVER works. I realized that through my own experiences.

[miSSleepy]

Why did these changes need to happen and why had you both agreed that she was going to change?

[IndiReloaded]

Is this that 18 year old you were dating? She doesn't know her OWN mind at that age, much less dealing with you trying to make it for her.

Lucky for her you cut her loose. And you, b/c she wouldn't have been happy with you anyway, eventually.

Oh, and... wow. You're pretty insecure aren't you BF? You're well on your way to 'control freak-leads-to-multiple-divorce' behaviour. Good luck with that.

[BFTrick]

hmmm, I guess I should have explained a little bit more in the original post.

She needed to change two things:

1)Stop being so Jealous/controlling

A good example is at the halloween party we were at. I asked a girl where the bathroom is, she showed it to me, I waited while someone else finished up. I went in. I went back to the GF and she directly accused me of taking too long in the bathroom, like I was doing something behind her back (flirting or kissing or something).

She also prevented my best friend (who happens to be an ex) from coming to my birthday party because she felt uncomfortable around her.

I don't appreciate having a collar.

2)Stop having weekly tantrums

She has weekly tantrums. She will get pissed about something at work and come home and yell at me. She apologizes afterwards.

But I don't feel that that is enough. Learn from your mistakes. If you know you get flustered after certain things happen at work, then change something. Don't kick the dog because you had a shit day.

I had a low key drinking thing going on yesterday. She was so moody that my friends left early because they were "tired". The typical college student doesn't get tired at 9:30PM.

[Zilla80]

Ohhh so you're the perfect boyfriend that she had to do all the changing for and couldn't, gotcha.

[BFTrick]

Ohhh so you're the perfect boyfriend that she had to do all the changing for and couldn't, gotcha.

I'm not perfect. I didn't claim to be. I have my fair share of problems; I got over a few, a bunch still need some work, and some can't be changed.

[Charlie Boy II]

yeah she sounds like a piece of work.