ok i met this guy, we be came friends then we had a FWB relationship, we broke it off cuse he said he let me get to close. so now he just wants to be friends, he tells me im beautiful all the time, he calls me all the time, when we are together he cant keep his hands off me . hes always rubing my shoulder or neck trying to touch/hold my hand ..i dont get it he keeps saying friend but acting like more..whats up with that?
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15-03-09, 11:30 PM #1
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what dose he want from me?
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16-03-09, 01:08 AM #2
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The big problem with FWB relationships is that there is a high risk that one person may become romantically attached while the other is just there for the friendship and the sex. It seems that's what he is struggling with right now ... he misses the sex (hence his behavior), but doesn't want to get hurt by getting into a one-sided romance.
Why aren't the two of you in a romantic relationship?
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16-03-09, 05:22 AM #3
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FWB a compromise that cheats both out of a chance to find a meaningful relationship... The time wasted on a ****-buddy could be used to find someone who really means something to you...
We only have a limited amount of time to hopefully find the person we really want to be with.
Why people get tangled up in something like this is a mystery to me... It's practically one step above prostitution --- where you pay the person to leave afterward and not get attached to you. In this case, you don't even pay them..."The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
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16-03-09, 05:42 AM #4
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Probably wants you as a backup to make sure you keep waiting for him if whatever else he's doing doesn't work out. He loves your backup role, you're a good backup.
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16-03-09, 08:07 AM #5
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hey thanks all 3 of you had some good points. the reason we are not in a meaningful relationship is he dosen't want one so he says. i just dont get it he says onething then dose/act the opposite but i guess the main thing is we are friends even if he is confusing.
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16-03-09, 10:01 AM #6
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Only thing he did was break it off until he got his emotions under control. Now that he's got it together... he's back to doing what he was doing before he lost emo control. What's the problem? Do you want it to be more than just FWB? Originally Posted by seeker09
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16-03-09, 10:36 AM #7
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Sure. Look for a compatible partner meanwhile. Originally Posted by seeker09
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Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
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Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
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11-04-09, 03:29 PM #8
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hi
yeah,i completely agree with this,"he loves your backup role & wants you physically" which is also a way to keep you lured and a boost to his ego. Originally Posted by Mishanya
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he decided not to be involved with you seriously or even FWB; but he is using you to master some heavy flirting on you, communicating, and others pre-sex dating techniques to be more confident and proficient with other girls. Originally Posted by seeker09
Any future between u2 is unlikely; so you may decide to take it easy and use his flirting as mere practice for you too; or brake it off.
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12-04-09, 12:07 AM #10
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things will work out unless you want more. i'm assuming you want more.
i'll tell you now that you'll never get it. guys are typically this way. if they can get you to engage in an fwb situation they will keep you there forever. you already crossed the line (sex), and you'll never be able to go back. if you want more, you'll have to find another guy. this one is not going to give it to you. 100% guaranteed.
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12-04-09, 03:21 AM #11
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There are quite a few reasons [as you've seen above] for his behavior.. but if I were you, I'd be less focused on trying to dissect his feelings, and more focused on giving him what he wants.
He wants to be friends? Then he needs to act like a friend only. If he's got his hands all over you, tell him to stop. He's the one who wanted to end the FWB situation and has told you he doesn't want a relationship-- so why are you still giving him some perks?
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12-04-09, 01:43 PM #12
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To stick his penis in you.
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