What makes guys think a woman is easy

[Mish]

We can smell it

[misombra]

ewwwwwwwwwww what does it smell like?


nevermind.


::i don't want to know::

[Lite]

ewwwwwwwwwww what does it smell like?


nevermind.


::i don't want to know::

Smells like cheap Victoria's Secret perfume.

[Rollerderby]

Blue, Giga and Cairenn I think you nailed it. I read this post and was like, OMG this is the story of my life. I think I also subconsciously seek validation, but I am trying to be more aware of it. I had a hard time my last year in college after my father died, and the guy I really liked rejected me. I'm starting to come out of it and be my old self again, but what you guys said really puts stuff in perspective. Thank you.

[Aeradalia]

Blue, Giga and Cairenn I think you nailed it. I read this post and was like, OMG this is the story of my life. I think I also subconsciously seek validation, but I am trying to be more aware of it. I had a hard time my last year in college after my father died, and the guy I really liked rejected me. I'm starting to come out of it and be my old self again, but what you guys said really puts stuff in perspective. Thank you.

This is the solution I came up to my own tendency to seek validation in others (from the thread [url]http://www.loveforum.net/personal-development-forum/27240-fighting-compulsion-serve.html[/url] ) :


I spent quite a bit of time thinking about the steps within this cycle... I feel insecure or rather not worthy... so in order to prove my worth I have to show it... demonstrate... so I go forth and do something seemingly worthy in hopes of earning recognition of my worth.

Hence:

Unworthy > Demonstration > Gain Worth


But this cycle can loop over, especially if my actions did not seem to benefit me or only partially achieved what I had hoped.

Hence:

Unworthy > Demonstration > Not worthy enough > Demonstration >Still Not Worthy Enough ... Etc..

This cycle is highly dependent on validation from others, and this validation can vary greatly from one person to the next.


So the way in which to 'break the cycle' more or less is to realize though validation is required for self-worth to be defined... it cannot be defined outside of ones self. Rather this worth can only be defined by yourself... and only use the opinions of others as a guide if you so choose - but their views are not required.

So the process needs to go more like this:

Unworthy > Demonstration to Oneself > Accepted As Being Worthy Based On Your Own Set of Values

Now this cycle may repeat but only when definitions of self-worth are to be updated... such as when the opinions of others seem to hold merit... you feel they have valid points and would like to adopt this within your own definitions. In essence, a person's definition of self-worth should only be changed as newer - better - definitions are found... so that the process can become progressive.

I have failed to realize validation of self-worth is defined by myself... and that once my self-worth is defined, it should only be updated in favor of better definitions of which I truly agree with.
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[Gigabitch]

no we had just walked in. i swear they took one look at her and knew.

They'd already had some of her before- she was just too drunk to remember.

one time i was on a ski lift with three guys and we passed this tree with all kinds of beads thrown all over it. for a few seconds after they were making comments about panties on a tree and coming up with stories about how they could've gotten there. i was sitting closest to the passing tree and i did not see them at all.

My hubby took a pic of that tree a couple of months ago.

[Charlie Boy II]

I don't think guys go after easy women. They're not that calculating. I think guys go after girls they want to f-ck.

[Rollerderby]

I don't think guys go after easy women. They're not that calculating. I think guys go after girls they want to f-ck.

Yes, but, why is that all they seem to want?

[Gigabitch]

Yes, but, why is that all they seem to want?

That hasn't been my experience in life. In sleazy bars, maybe, but in real life, most guys seem to want girlfriends.

[Aeradalia]

I don't think guys go after easy women. They're not that calculating. I think guys go after girls they want to f-ck.

I've noticed a trend with men as they progress in life.

When they are young they go after women they want to ****..

They get a little older they go after women that offer less complications and more reliability, but they still would want to ****.

As they get even older... they go after women that offer less complications, more reliability, capable of being a real good friend, and they still would want to ****.

And then finally, they go after women that offer less complications, more reliability, capable of being a real good friend, they are sure they love, and they still would want to ****.


Some guys go through all the stages in just a few short years. Some guys take a few decades. And some guys never reach the final stage.