My ex told me to "leave it alone"?

[luna338]

I have been texting my ex and he seemed fine with it, but I said maybe I would call him sometime and he said "just leave it alone." Does this mean I can't contact him at all anymore? Please don't tell me to move on - why can't we be friends? I really care about him. Can I just wait awhile and try again?

[Texas]

Hi Luna338,

I've been in the same exact situation that you are in. You want to so badly to have some type of communication with him but they say no. It just tears you up in side. All you can really do is give him some time. I swear the more time you keep pushing the more he doesn't want you.

This time I just got done breaking up with someone that was completely devastated by it. I felt horrible about how I made her feel but she kept trying to contact me and all it did is make things worse.

I know, you want to have some typ of magical email, text, or voice mail fix everything but it doesn't work like that. Maybe in a few months, yeah, you can give it a try but I will hold off for awhile. Good luck!

[Yggdrasil]

Doesn't work that way doll.. only time and space can heal the wounds.

[Petit Papillon]

why can't we be friends?

Muppets have the same question...
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[Gigabitch]

Luna, you can't be friends with your ex. He needs to initiate No Contact so HE can move on. Let him. You're making it harder.

[vashti]

I have been texting my ex and he seemed fine with it, but I said maybe I would call him sometime and he said "just leave it alone." Does this mean I can't contact him at all anymore? Please don't tell me to move on - why can't we be friends? I really care about him. Can I just wait awhile and try again?

it sounds like he doesn't want to hear from you anymore. You need to learn to respect his feelings.

[Lite]

You broke up, you're not best friends. Get over it, you lost your lover and your best friend. Let him grieve in peace and move on with his life in the manner that he wants to. You don't have a say in the matter.

[Il Cattivo]

You can do anything you like, you can follow him around for your whole life if you want to.
I'm not trying to say that you are crazy, or wrong for caring about him, in fact, I think it's pretty noble that you are willing to put so much effort into another person. However, if they don't see it that way, why not move on?
Your ex expressly told you he doesn't want to hear from you; that means he doesn't want to be friends either.
You have two options: move on to the next guy, or continue to contact him, remaining satisfied that he doesn't reciprocate.

[Petit Papillon]

it's a troll guys Once again You've been punk'd
She had a time to double post ,but no time to respond to replies? Lol

[luna338]

OK I get it. I have to leave him alone. It should be really easy for me to do this, since he has never treated me right. Actually, there is more to the story.

We were never really "together." We used to hook-up and I realize now that he was just stringing me along because he liked the sex. Once I took that off the table and said I wanted "more," that is when he bolted.

I guess I just don't want to believe that it was just all about the sex for him. I wanted to believe he was a lot better than that and that he would would come around when he was ready.

But before you call me crazy, isn't he just as desperate/pathetic for keeping in touch with me for YEARS when he was just hoping that one day I would start sleeping with him again? (We were just texting/talking on the phone for a really long time).

Anyway, I will let it go, but I am disappointed. And I secretly hope that he will contact me again. Otherwise he is just some jerk that strung me along hoping for sex.

[Yggdrasil]

it's a troll guys Once again You've been punk'd
She had a time to double post ,but no time to respond to replies? Lol

Yer psychic powers are failing little butterfly

[alovehangoverr]

OK I get it. I have to leave him alone. It should be really easy for me to do this, since he has never treated me right. Actually, there is more to the story.

We were never really "together." We used to hook-up and I realize now that he was just stringing me along because he liked the sex. Once I took that off the table and said I wanted "more," that is when he bolted.

I guess I just don't want to believe that it was just all about the sex for him. I wanted to believe he was a lot better than that and that he would would come around when he was ready.

But before you call me crazy, isn't he just as desperate/pathetic for keeping in touch with me for YEARS when he was just hoping that one day I would start sleeping with him again? (We were just texting/talking on the phone for a really long time).

Anyway, I will let it go, but I am disappointed. And I secretly hope that he will contact me again. Otherwise he is just some jerk that strung me along hoping for sex.

I'd say he's less desperate/pathetic for keeping in touch with you for years-- he probably didn't mind talking to you, and if there was a possiblity of sex on the table at some point, why not continue conversation/etc to see if it led there? Turned out he was right about it and got what he wanted.

At this point he's let you know he doesn't want to talk-- so knock it off.. or you'll just start looking all sorts of crazy.

[Petit Papillon]

Yer psychic powers are failing little butterfly

awwww how sweet 'little butterfly' sounds to me

[Lite]

We were never really "together." We used to hook-up and I realize now that he was just stringing me along because he liked the sex. Once I took that off the table and said I wanted "more," that is when he bolted.

Ah, so you're really just a lying troll that changes the story. Have fun with that!

[luna338]

he probably didn't mind talking to you, and if there was a possiblity of sex on the table at some point, why not continue conversation/etc to see if it led there?

Why not? Because I obviously had feelings for him and he used it against me. I could never be so cruel.

I'm not lying whoever you are. In my head, as sad as this may seem, he has been the guy in my life. It is only now that I am realizing that he never even saw me that way. Does that make me a troll?

But thanks anyway -- I'm going to try and forget this whole mess - I can't believe I thought he was a good guy all this time. I don't know who to be more mad at - him or myself.