can i get the ex back?

[brokenhearted33]

(I'm reposting this from the Broken Hearts forum because I figure a male opinion could help me alot here. Thanks to anyone who is reading this!)

First off, thanks to everyone and anyone who can help me with my issue.

I became official with my (now) exgirlfriend about a month ago. I probably fell for her 3-4 months ago. (we are both in our early 20s, college students, from Norcal)

Recently, she broke up with me I guess because she didn't feel the proper attraction or chemistry with me (we had a post-breakup convo and this is pretty much what I gathered). We get along extremely well, and we're very compatible. I make her laugh and I do sweet things for her. But she simply doesn't feel the right chemistry I guess.

FYI: we broke up on good terms. We are still going to hang out apparently and she just wants us to be really good friends, which we are.

Anyways, I've been TRYING to cope with this but I must say it's REALLY hard. I can't even imagine how bad breakups are for ppl with longer relationships.

All I can think of is wanting to get her back....but as I mentioned, she doesn't feel we have the right chemistry. In my defense, it was difficult for me to develop a good chemistry with her in the month we were official since, having already been good friends, I didn't know how to approach it. I wanted to take it slow for her. Of course I eventually was going to progress the chemistry/attraction/romance/physicality, but I didn't plan to do it as quickly as she apparently had wanted? Now it's too late, and she THINKS we dont have chemistry, even though I believe it's only because of the way I chose to interact with her for the first couple weeks (again - because we had already been good friends).

Is there anything I can do to fix this? I'm going to be seeing her a lot this summer since she still wants to hang out.

What do you guys think?

If this isn't repairable, what do you guys do to cope with these situations? I've never been this hurt.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.

[Kawaisou]

Bro,

I am sorry but from what I can gather it looks like she does not want to be with you in that matter. She does want to be with you still in the aspect of friends, but from what I can tell...not as lovers.

Somethings just dont work out, for whatever reason. It is dumb I know...but I think you should try to move on. That may be your last chance to get yourself out of this, or even make her jealous?

Goodluck man.

Justin

[Lonely Island]

I would just cut off all contact with her

Thats just me though

[Lite]

Can you get her back? Most likely not. And most certainly not right now.

You need to make new hobbies, new routines, and new memories to bond to that do not involve her. Go start something new that you've been daydreaming about forever.

[Yggdrasil]

For starters: you can't be friends with someone you have romantic feelings for.

Secondly, it takes two for a relation and she isn't interested.

So: break all contact and go your own way. You're still young and there are thousands of other galls.

Remember: you guys broke up for a reason. Don't get stuck on a figment of your imagination.