Girlfriend is craving lesbian sex. What to think?

[Troubsey]

Hello people,

My bi-sexual girlfriend told me a few hours ago that the past few days she has been having this craving to have sex with a girl again. She said she is missing it.

We have both always said we never wanted to do threesomes or anything like that, she actually said a few days ago that her group-sex fantasies died when she started having a romantic/sexual relationship with me.

Earlier today she appearantly told a female friend about her craving for lesbian sex and this girl asked her if she could have a threesome with the two of us. My gf already had told her friend i would say no and that we wouldnt want to share. But her friend wanted her to ask me anyway, and so she did, and i said no.

The idea of having a threesome with two girls, well i would be able to enjoy that i think, i wouldnt have to shag this other girl, just my own girlfriend. It wouldnt hurt seeing my girlfriend having sex with another girl. But a threesome with another guy being inside my girlfriend, i would never be able to do that, it would ruin the relationship for me. Since that makes me sound like a hypocrite i have always considered all threesome's a no-go and didnt want to share or be shared. A sentiment my girlfriend always said she agreed with.

She said she'd never give in to those cravings while she is with me, so she wouldnt cheat on me. They were just cravings, and she didnt like the idea of having a threesome any more then me.
I told her i wanted to be the only person to satisfy her. To which she responded "I know sweetie, but you have to remember one thing: im bi".
I told her i knew that, and said "well, just ignore the cravings then, and dont mention it". Because it kinda hurts my self-esteem, the same way it hurt her self-esteem when i still watched porn, which i since stopped doing for her.
Of course i know she is bi and that she has these cravings now and then, no need to mention it and hint at the fact im not satisfying her right? If she wanted sex with a girl or a threesome with one she should have let me know and talked to me about it.

She got very quiet and when i asked if she wanted to talk about it she said no.I tried asking her to tell me whats going on in her mind but she gave me the silent treatment (hate that...) and soon afterwards she went home. At the moment i cant reach her.

I guess she got pissed off i adviced her to just ignore her cravings then. I mean, if she doesnt want to give in to them, or want to safely have sex with a girl (threesome), then she should just ignore them right?

I suck at this.

[Mish]

Sounds like she will probably leave this relationship

[Troubsey]

Sounds like she will probably leave this relationship

That i seriously doubt. I think she is just upset because i said: "well, just ignore the cravings then, and dont mention it".
If she feels she needs to have sex with a girl now and then while in a relationship with a guy we can find some ground rules for it. (girl we both feel comfy with, only with me present, etc)

But she said she never wanted sex with anyone but me, and no threesome's. She mentioned it was "just a little craving".

[Mish]

How old are the two of you?

[Troubsey]

How old are the two of you?

Im turning 26 next month, she is turning 20 in two months.

[Cbrider]

"I know sweetie, but you have to remember one thing: im bi".

Cop out, bullshit, bullshit, bullshit.

Throw this one at here, "remember sweetie, I'm straight so I want to go get on more girls than just you."

You set down limits and shes pushing those because shes selfish. Who cares if you lose her, its not worth your happiness and trust.

[misombra]

it's the cool, in thing to do to be bi these days. for young girls anyway.

[IndiReloaded]

Call her bluff. Ask to watch.

[optimistvik]

I think you are right IndiReloaded
She is a bluff

[Cbrider]

My ex asked me what I thought about bi girls, I really didn't have an opinion at the time. She said it was just an excuse for more attention....kind of wonder if she was onto something.

[Junket]

If she gets to f*ck the girl, you should get to f*ck the girl too.

What's the difference?

[misombra]

i crave sex with clive owen.

[Junket]

i crave sex with clive owen.

As long as your boyfriend gets to f*ck him too, it's okay.

[misombra]

he could fuk my mother and my sister too i don't care.

[angel87]

the red flag is waving if she doesn't even want to talk about it to help u understand where she is coming from.

Then again, if u agreed to a threesome both of you would have fun...maybe she just says she doesn't want it cos she thinks you don't want it.

Ok but really, can u blame women for being attracted to other women? Let's compare the average male boy with the female body. I think the female body wins the attractiveness vote, the male body on the other hand wins the usefulness vote. so being bi gives u the best of both worlds