A question for a guy!

[sno]

Ok so I am talking to this guy. We meet at the beginning of 09 and talked for a few weeks. When we met I was going through a breakup of a 4 yr relationship. So although I really liked this guy and wanted to be with this guy I couldnt... he ended up being like a rebound. He called my phone for months without me picking it up.... he sent me txt and messages over myspace he drove me crazy. I ended up being really mean to him on his birthday to leave me alone. So now its been a year since all that happened and we recently have got back in contact. I have been single for a while now I have healed from my ex and I am ready for a relationship. me and him having been hanging out. I have been really confused because knowing him I know how much he calls me. Now he answers for me once a day he rarely calls at all and we txt a few messages during the day. I asked him if he was in a relationship and he said no I asked him if he just wasnt interested in taking this any further and he said yes he does want to be with me. Then after asking him that he laughed at me he said I use to blow your phone up and you didnt like it now I barely call and you dnt like it which one do you want..... He told my best friend infront of me that he likes me and he likes how I carry myself. So my question is am I wasting my time. Is he just hurt and will come around and start giving me more attention later or is how I treated him just unforgivable and he is just playing me right now. What approach should I take should I just back off from him, should I just continue on the path i am on, or what.

[lhn]

He asked u a question... did u answer him?
Last time he showed interest in you you weren't in a position to date him which is fair enough. Now he doesn't know which way you want it.
From what I can tell, he is just trying to play his cards right. Cut him some slack and tell him what was happening a yr ago and why you blanked him out. Its in the past so should be fine.
Text/call him as much as you want to be texted/called. Or just tell him. These games at such a ridiculously early stage seem so silly to me.
goodluck

[Doc Durian]

One bitten twice shy.

Maybe let him know that if he wanted to call you a lot this time around, you'd pick up like a banshee and you weren't in a place to start a new relationship last time around.

[dewilliams2]

Sounds to me like you said don't call so he stopped...now your saying call and he is a little bit but not enough to suit you...your gonna confuse the poor guy. You probably did hurt him at some point but he obviously really likes you to come back even after bein shut down so hard once.

If you really want to go any further with him you need to be nice to him and understand that ya bruised him pretty hard at one point....why don't you try calling him more when you wanta talk?...he will wanta talk to you and it will make him feel better....he sounds like a smart guy who doesn't make the same mistake twice.

[Incognito]

dewilliams2 makes a good point. You should talk to him what happened back then, and what you want now. Once you give him a green light, he'll go. I'm still amazed that in this day and age where women have the same rights as men and are in many circles considered equals that SO many women still will risk letting not letting a relationship blossom because the guy isn't chasing them. Most women will sue any male controlled company (or organization, or school etc) that won't allow them to join based on sex, but they won't call a guy that they are head over heels for simply because "the man is supposed to call/chase them". You can vote, you can work, you can do everything else, so you can also pick up a phone. <<<Let me add that I'm not being snappy, or talking down to anyone. I just couldn't find another way to word that, and after reading it I noticed that it could be taken the wrong way depending on the reader's mood.

[Perryville]

Did you explain all this to him ? Or did you just blow him off, rudely? Maybe you should try apologizing.