When Did Cheating Become So Acceptable?

[IndiReloaded]

LOL. Well, finding someone whose values match your own is a good place to start. As for the rest, I'll try to sum up my position without an internet overshare:

Nothing is free in life, Ann. If you want a partner who will be faithful to you in marriage there may be other costs to pay for that mindset. Think about it.

[oneandonly]

LOL. Well, finding someone whose values match your own is a good place to start. As for the rest, I'll try to sum up my position without an internet overshare:

Nothing is free in life, Ann. If you want a partner who will be faithful to you in marriage there may be other costs to pay for that mindset. Think about it.

I read the above highlighted over and over and over. Still don't get it

[oneandonly]

You need to make some new friends.

I totally agree with OP's sentiment on here. I am one of the people who totally get blind when I am in a relationship. I will never ever be tempted when I am with someone and would like to believe there are some people like me out there.

So what this 'you need to make some new friends' means?!?!

[Incognito]

Humans like sex. Some humans like LOTS of sex. Some humans, like Bill Clinton, Tiger Woods, probably Bill Gates (tho you won't ever know b/c he's SMART), etc, etc. happen to like sex, are in a position to be offered lots of sex and will occasionally take us such offeres. Especially if they aren't getting any at home. Why shouldn't they? They work hard, they are successful, they can afford it.
Frankly, I don't see it being any different for successful women. Go forth and make thyself self-sufficient and you can pretty much do whatever you want. Its only b/c, historically, women allowed themselves to be kept by men that the guys got to call the shots. If Hillary Clinton, or Maggie Thatcher, Indira Ghandi or Oprah for that matter, want(ed) to take a lover then why not?

Point is, make choices for what works for you. Being successful allows you the freedom to make those choices.

There is no denying that cheating is prevalent and has been for some time, but DAMN! Its viewpoints like this that led our society to things like "open relationships" and trems like "married, but looking" (both of which are oxymorons mind you). If you make that much money and are that successful and can't keep it in your pants blah blah blah, then DON'T get into a relationship.......PERIOD. At least not with someone who doesn't have the same warped view of what a committed marriage should be. No one is entitled to cheat, regardless of their status or income level. The very term 'cheating' is an admission that you have done something wrong. The very definition of the word means to trick, deprive or practice fraudulently. No one has the right to cheat, no one. If its that serious, just break off the relationship and go have your fun.

[vashti]

I love the moralizing that happens amongst people who are so young and idealistic. It's adorable.

[VincenzoG91]

I totally agree with OP's sentiment on here. I am one of the people who totally get blind when I am in a relationship. I will never ever be tempted when I am with someone and would like to believe there are some people like me out there.

So what this 'you need to make some new friends' means?!?!

I'm assuming that the OP is referring to specific people that he knows well, and not just speculating on the general human condition. And compared to my own experiences, it sounds like he hangs out with a lot of shady people. It doesn't make him a bad person, but it does suggest that he could find better people to hang with.

Also, on behalf of the human race, I would like to thank all of you cheaters out there. Thank you for herpes. Thank you for AIDS. Thank you for chlamydia. Thank you for HPV. Thanks for everything, you selfish jerks. Sure, these diseases would exist anyway, and get transmitted by single people who have changed partners over time, but special thanks to the cheaters for going that extra mile to infect even non-cheating spouses.

[oneandonly]

I'm assuming that the OP is referring to specific people that he knows well, and not just speculating on the general human condition. And compared to my own experiences, it sounds like he hangs out with a lot of shady people. It doesn't make him a bad person, but it does suggest that he could find better people to hang with.

Also, on behalf of the human race, I would like to thank all of you cheaters out there. Thank you for herpes. Thank you for AIDS. Thank you for chlamydia. Thank you for HPV. Thanks for everything, you selfish jerks. Sure, these diseases would exist anyway, and get transmitted by single people who have changed partners over time, but special thanks to the cheaters for going that extra mile to infect even non-cheating spouses.

haha I got ya! Ta!

That was fun to read. lol.

[IndiReloaded]

I read the above highlighted over and over and over. Still don't get it

I'm not going to spoon feed you on this. My post isn't that opaque, you just aren't trying hard enough. Vash thanked my post, which means she understands it. Understanding isn't the same as having to agree with me, BTW. In fact, I'm certain Vash has her own interpretation, she's just curious what else might be posted.

Come on, at least give a shot at what you think I'm saying. Or maybe someone else will give a go?

HINT - What might be the characteristics of someone actually able to be faithful to one person the rest of their life? There's a distinct difference between admiring an ideal and actually living up to it.

[MissAnn]

My interpretation is that you're saying if you want someone who can/will be faithful, you may have to give up marrying a rich, attractive, high status guy?

[vashti]

...or marry the kind that no one else wants. lol

[IndiReloaded]

Or marry someone who will force you to a standard that you, yourself, had better be able to uphold.

The perfect man wants the perfect woman, hein?

As regards rich, attractive, high-status guy who will ALSO be faithful 'till death do you part... what you do bring to the table for such a mate? Its the ideal that so many women think they want and deserve, but few can actually themselves meet.

Something has to give, unless you happen to be the perfect woman. In which case, this whole issue would be moot. What man would dare cheat on you for fear of losing such perfection?

Getting there, but think a bit more. No such thing as perfection, only knowing what you want and being willing to compromise *something* for it.

[tropigal82]

I agree. It's disgusting. Were you in a long distance relationship? How did you find out? See my new thread 'Should I tell her he cheated AGAIN?' x

[skyhighshoul]

I'm assuming that the OP is referring to specific people that he knows well, and not just speculating on the general human condition. And compared to my own experiences, it sounds like he hangs out with a lot of shady people. It doesn't make him a bad person, but it does suggest that he could find better people to hang with.

Also, on behalf of the human race, I would like to thank all of you cheaters out there. Thank you for herpes. Thank you for AIDS. Thank you for chlamydia. Thank you for HPV. Thanks for everything, you selfish jerks. Sure, these diseases would exist anyway, and get transmitted by single people who have changed partners over time, but special thanks to the cheaters for going that extra mile to infect even non-cheating spouses.

I am a female, not a male.

And in fact I am speaking about the general human race, everywhere I turn, everywhere I look - everytime I listen to someones story, I see someone cheating!
It just came to light when I noticed that my now ex long distance boyfriend was cheating, when my best mate of years and years had started cheating and when I met someone new who thought it was okay to have an emotional affair.

I generally want nothing to do with anyone that cheats, hence its now an ex boyfriend, and I have nothing more to do with the 'someone new' but how can I disregard a friendship that is so many years old?

Everyone I know, has been cheated on in one way or another - I just want to know when it became so acceptable?

[vashti]

How old are you, skyhigh?

because I think the age may play a factor in how open people are about their cheating. I mean, they still cheat later on, but they are less likely to share that info with friends.

[IndiReloaded]

I am a female, not a male.

And in fact I am speaking about the general human race, everywhere I turn, everywhere I look - everytime I listen to someones story, I see someone cheating!
It just came to light when I noticed that my now ex long distance boyfriend was cheating, when my best mate of years and years had started cheating and when I met someone new who thought it was okay to have an emotional affair.

I generally want nothing to do with anyone that cheats, hence its now an ex boyfriend, and I have nothing more to do with the 'someone new' but how can I disregard a friendship that is so many years old?

Everyone I know, has been cheated on in one way or another - I just want to know when it became so acceptable?

Are you actually old enough to have come to such a sweeping conclusion about the human race?

I don't think its 'become acceptable' anymore today than a generation or so ago. Its probably more the type of people you hang around with. Maybe you should broaden your contact demographics.