The ball in their Court...

[Envy]

Something I'm struggling on right now.

Imagine this..

Your in a relationship with someone, not officially partners etc but for the circumstances, pretty damn close. You'd be together but things are complicated in terms of distance. But you've both explained that you want each other.

You make a witty (later to realise stupid) joke about something in the past during conversation and they get all abrupt and quiet on you.

Try to talk to them, apologise, but they give it very minimal words and show no intent to speak. Tell them what's going on in your feelings, what's going on in your head and leave it at that.

Next day they won't talk to you again. Except the smallest minimal still, but it ends up as you in a way waiting on them to speak to you. You've done your part, explained etc and tried, any more would be nagging and too far.

Now you've just got to wait. But it's in your head, annoying you, and you can't get them/the situation out of your head. Every little thing reminds you of them, with them distracting you from everything. All you want to do is smile in the hapinness of their words, and enjoy them. But for now you need to give them the space.

What sort of thing would you do to help wait?

My head is rammed, I simply need to escape and be abit stubborn but I don't seem to have learnt how to be. Having most of this week off ill is lame in terms of just sitting around and thinking about things. Playing on the Xbox, going out for 2 hour drives. Trying to talk to friends into a decent indepth conversation about something different. I think I definately need to get back at the gym and start getting rid of these spells of adrenline.

[xxazurexx]

Are you a guy?

If so, then you could almost be the guy in my situation...only I doubt he gives a shit that I've ignored him 3 days and he doesn't have an xbox...I don't think? lols

[TAVS]

Its hard to provide advice when you do not tell us what the root of the issue is

[xxazurexx]

^^ I think the root of the issue is, he said something and she took it the wrong way. A case of engaging mouth before brain

[TAVS]

^^ I think the root of the issue is, he said something and she took it the wrong way. A case of engaging mouth before brain

Thanks for your review of the situation, unnecessary as it was. My point is, what exactly he said has a lot of bearing on this issue.

[Envy]

No I'm not the guy sorry, she's in Australia.

I mentioned a lad from her past who rang her while we were on call (msn) the other night for her to say "I said I'd ring you before I go to bed..." in a frustrated voice. I was like what? at the time. But didn't think anything of it really as she said had spoke about it being a negative experience etc and some what of a mistake prior.

So yeah, my fault for being an idiot/twat really. But just time. My post is due on tuesday/wednesday though so I'm unsure how she'll take that if we've still not spoke.

We'll see.

[Gigabitch]

Yeah. What did you say? It must have been pretty awful.

[Envy]

As above ^

I went out and bought a webcam today as she hasn't seen me in ages. Send inv, tell her to excuse my bed hair and I got a "Ohh Hi (: ", and nothing else. Not even a goodnight. Ahh man.

[TAVS]

It feels to me like it may be time for you to play hard to get. It may not be easy for you, but I think you need to step back and wait until she reaches out to you

[Envy]

That's what I'm doing but it's so damn hard, thinking about it all the time etc. I'm not taking 1 step back and 2 steps forward, it'll be 1 step back and she can make the 2 steps forward. As selfish as that sounds.

Thanks

[xxazurexx]

No I'm not the guy sorry, she's in Australia.

No need to be sorry, I wasn't hoping you were him. He is not the forum posting type anyway I wouldn't imagine and your spelling is better.

She will bounce back and eventually, if you mean that much to her.

[Envy]

I apologise alittle too much tbh!

She's always been shit at putting her her into words, but she told me these explain (this was over the weekend mind) : [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aENY16Mjw6k]YouTube - 11. Vanilla Twilight -Owl City- Ocean Eyes;[/url] and [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXwTc4GBfFk]YouTube - Kisschasy - Dinosaur[/url]

So hopefully. Thanks.