What does 2 weeks do? Ladies perspective

[dakota3404]

Hello all!
I've been reading through the posts for the last couple weeks. What a lot of great advise! This is my first post and would really like some honest opinions.

I've been dating this girl for about 6 weeks, and WOW, what a great 6 weeks it has been! She's 31 and I'm 37. She's a business owner and I'm an Engineering Manager. We're both really busy people, but always found time for each other. We are also both divorced. She for about a year and me for 5 months (although my marriage was over a year ago). This is the first serious relationship for both of us since the divorces)

So the cliff note version of our relationship....
From our first date, we simply connected and could not see enough of each other and always made time. We would go out of the way to do the little things making each other crazy happy. We with held sex for the first 3 weeks simply cuddling all night and getting to know each in ways I'd never done before. At this point I was still keeping my heart guarded, but couldn't help caring for her.

Then, she really started letting me into her life. Which I though was huge. She introduces me to her friends, family, and the biggest, Her 4 year old Son! Wow, I was really thinking, this is what a great relationship feels like. I'd never been with anyone like her and never felt the feelings I was having. Now the guard around my heart was gone and I completly fell for her. I told her I loved her. We were making plans to visit my family (5 hours away) Making long term plans for the summer. Everything was great! We always at leasted texted each other and stayed in touch wished each other good morning, hope your having a good day, thinking about you, miss you, good night etc....

Friday Night we go out. I wanted her to meet my close friends. Everything went / was great. We had a great time, drank a little too much and went back to her place and passed out. Saturday morning, she goes to work, I go home we say our good by's everything seemed good. That was really the last time I talked to her!

I didn't get anything from her all day Saturday, I pushed a little on Sunday and got a good night. Last night she messages me and says she feels overshelmed and needs a couple weeks to her self. Even admiting she feels like shit for treating me like this. Saying I've done nothing wrong, treat her like a Queen, but wants me to understand....

I know it's only been 6 weeks, but I'm crushed! I really love this girl! I'm trying to understand her side. I do know that it's almost her 1 year divorce anniversary. Maybe that's it? Maybe she's scared by how great this relationship is? Maybe this is a test to see how much I'll put up with? You know the saying "Throw it away, if its love it will come back" I really want to call some of her friends to find out whats going on. That probably isn't in my best interest.

So what do you think? I plan on giving her the space she needs and see what happens. Anyone been through something like this before?

Thanks for reading the long post

Aaron

[workoutgirl1970]

I don't see what is overwhelming. Overwhelmed at how well she is being treated or how well things are going. So what does she want someone to treat her like crap? Just ask her what is overwhelming and go from there, I don't see the problem with her personally. You sound pretty great to me.

[Gigabitch]

It could be any number of things, from tiny/good to major/bad. What you have to do is NOT freak out. Send her something in writing, an email maybe, that tells her your feelings haven't changed, aren't likely to change and to take all the time she needs- you'll be there when she's ready.

I have some experience with being overwhelmed and believe me, the best thing you can do is stay rock solid while she's confused.

[Lulu]

Just give her the space- don't text her often or anything like that. Do what giga said- but don't send anything to lengthy. She probably just didn't expect to be in another serious relationship so soon and is testing herself to see how she feels about your absence- LET her miss you, cause she will- but she won't if you send her texts like crazy. Keep the distance until she comes back in a few weeks....Be respectful of her request and she'll appreciate you more for it.

[Jas_mine]

Wow, that all sounds pretty intense for just six weeks. Seems like you guys have moved real fast and maybe initially she got caught up in the whole whirlwind romance however now simply feels overwhelmed. You have the right idea with the whole space thing though dude. Let her figure things out for herself, hopefully she will realise what an amazing thing she has with you and will return free of confusion.