talking about sex

[brokenhearted33]

Hey,

So I've been dating this girl for almost 2 months now....we have really amazing chemistry and are still in a solid honeymoon phase...we love kissing each other and making out, and I can sense she's really in to me (and i feel the same about her of course). When shes staying over at my place, and i dont give her the attention that she wants sometimes, then she starts kissing me + massaging me.....i just feel like she's really into me (and i am to her!) So far, she's only let me go to second base with her (groping/kissing her chest and groping her butt).

We are in our senior yr of undergraduate college (22yrs old)

Call me a super horny man or whatever, but I do want to seal the deal with her. In our past make-out sessions, I would slowly inch my hand towards her "area", but she would always move my hand away, obviously signifying that she isn't ready.

I guess my question is, is it acceptable to have a "talk" with her about this whole subject, on when she thinks she would be ready? How else do i gauge knowing whether she is ready or not? I dont want to have to keep inching my hand near her area just to see whether she is ready or not

I think she is a virgin, but honestly it's hard to guess those things.

[girl68]

You should be able to at least talk about sex. You should know if she's waiting till she's married or if she wants to be your gf first or if she simply isn't quite ready for you to go there yet. Just ask her if you're pushing her too hard. Ask her if she's comfortable or nervous...

[Junket]

Have the talk before everything gets heated.

22 years old?

There's no excuse not to be able to talk about sex.

[Graham Berkeley]

Have the talk before everything gets heated.

22 years old?

There's no excuse not to be able to talk about sex.

I agree with Frasbee. Its pretty normal for the age to talk about it.

[brokenhearted33]

is there a right time to talk about it? or...next time we're making out...could i simply just bring it up and ask her what her thoughts are about it?

[Junket]

is there a right time to talk about it? or...next time we're making out...could i simply just bring it up and ask her what her thoughts are about it?

Did you not read what I just posted?

Have the talk before everything gets heated.

In other words, don't wait until your swapping spit, and sportin' a raging boner before you decide to discuss your feelings on sex.

[lahnnabell]

Her "area"? I don't think you're ready for sex.

[brokenhearted33]

uh would you rather i say vagina? clit? pussy?

[xxazurexx]

^^ Sounds like you don't even know what a clit is.....god I hate that word.

I always found and in my experiences, that when sex happened it happened naturally.

Never any discussed arrangement to have it or when we'd be ready, it just happened.

[girl68]

uh would you rather i say vagina? clit? pussy?

I'd rather see I was trying to go for the gold.

[anonymous12345]

sounds like shes the type of girl that would get uncomfortable even if u talk about sex. Another option is be more smooth with her. Don't go straight down there with your hand. Next time the mood is right and u kids are macking it hot and heavy, get on top of her and kiss her real intense and touch her wherever she has let u gone before like groping her and rubbing your hands around her body. Once your on top of her get inbetween her legs and just move ur hips around. Get some body contact towards her "area" and just move that hip and pelvis around so she can feel the rubbing. If u do it right then u can slide ur hand down to her thigh slowly and take ur time here, then move ur hand over to her "area" but on the outside of the pant and just start groping her "area" from the outside. If u do it right eventually she'll be really turn on and u can slowly slide ur hands into her pants and ur home son.

[lahnnabell]

Just say "vagina" or something else representative of her womanhood. Why is that word so scary? Using vague words like "area" make it sound like you yourself are uncomfortable talking about sex.