Ashton & Demi situation

[r_marie]

Hi there !!

I really like this guy that is 12 yrs younger than me.

The problem now is, I am not sure how he feels.

Yes we do go for movies and dinners/lunches together and that's it. He is sweet, funny and adorable but am not sure how he feels. Maybe he respect me coz I am older hence that is why he never make any move or .... he is simply not interested ??

[vashti]

He's probably interested. Most males don't care to hang around women they aren't interested in romantically unless they are gay. How old is he, anyway?

[r_marie]

Hi Vashti !! Tks for ur reply !!

He is in his mid 20's and me mid 30's ^ - ^

[vashti]

As I said, he is probably interested, but if I were you, I would try to keep my emotions in check. Even if something were to develop between you, it would probably only be a fling, due to the age difference.

[r_marie]

Well, for now I will just go with the flow but at some point, I know I need to let him go .......... it's too much emotional for me ........

[Gigabitch]

Are you as hot as Demi? If so, you might have a shot at this. If not, it's possible he's just doing the "cougar and cub" thing for kicks and it doesn't have long term potential.

[r_marie]

Hhmm ....... I am not sure how "hot" am I ......... so far men still like to flirt with me (unfortunately, uniteresting men ;-(( )

I dunno ........ guess I don't have enough self confident huh ?

[xxazurexx]

Men will flirt with anything....hot or not....lols

No disrespect to you OP when I said that....just what I've observed throughout my 30 odd years on this planet.

I don't see 12 years as being that huge an age gap to be totally honest. Not like you are 46 and he's 19.....which we had on here a few weeks back *shock*

I say go for it

[r_marie]

LOL Azure !!! You are right, men flirts with anything !!! LOL !!

Tks for ur support but now the "problem" is, I don't know how he feels about me ?? Is he just being comfortable round me coz he treat me as an elder sis or more than that ..........

I enjoy our friendship and don't wanna risk it by asking him something stupid ...

Is there any "way" to make him hint ?? Or test the water ??

So far when he is with me, he's very respectful but if we go out in groups with other guys, he becomes one of them and will ogle at girls like there is no tomorrow !!

[Gigabitch]

So far when he is with me, he's very respectful but if we go out in groups with other guys, he becomes one of them and will ogle at girls like there is no tomorrow !!

Right in front of you? Red flag. If he were actually interested, he'd hold back in front of you.

[r_marie]

LOL .... naa ... I will just try to be positive, at least when we are alone he don't do that. I know many boyfriends and even husbands out there that ogles other women right in front of their girlfriend/wife !!

[nerdy_guy]

LOL .... naa ... I will just try to be positive, at least when we are alone he don't do that. I know many boyfriends and even husbands out there that ogles other women right in front of their girlfriend/wife !!

Its a Look but don't touch agreement. And it should never get past that. But then again, the cougar and cub relationship is the "in" thing right now is it not? Tread lightly, if you can't take it, its better to back off rather than moving forward with it. It would get complicated and everyone just gets hurt.

[r_marie]

Yup, I get what you mean, I appreciate the friendship we have that is why will not want to ruin it with bringing it further.

Just that now I am dead curious if he feels something for me

[Illusional]

He's probably interested. Most males don't care to hang around women they aren't interested in romantically unless they are gay. How old is he, anyway?

so you still wanna meet up in LA???


raverboy

[Mish]

Maybe he doesn't know if he's interested or not himself