So last night I went to a kickback at a friends house with some friends, and this girl that I've had a thing for was there. I had told her a couple days ago how I felt, and we hugged, but I made the mistake of not kissing her right then and there.. She had said she was happy I told her, but didn't exactly say she liked me back.. although when I'm with her we flirt, and we never run out of things to talk about. Anyway, back to the night, I was kind of not paying too much attention to her, since I didn't want to seem clingy, and I wasn't sure how she felt, and we were really good friends and I wasn't sure if I wanted to kiss her and ruin it. As we were drinking and the night progressed, she ended up making out with some guy and going into the bathroom and I think had sex with him. I'm not sure because I left as soon as I saw them go in the bathroom.. I never saw her as that type of girl, she has always been extremely kind, and sweet. I feel extremely hurt, and can't get her off my mind.. I had never felt like I did for a girl before like I did for her. I regret not making a move, and I feel extremely down, so I thought I would send her a message on facebook telling her how I felt.. here is what I wrote:
Hey,
So I've been trying all day not to care, but deep down I know I really do. What hurts more isn't that you went and had sex with some guy last night knowing I was there and how I felt, but knowing that I will always live with the regret that I didn't try my hardest to get close to you.. I had never felt about someone the way I felt about you, and that scared me. I felt fear of rejection, and I felt I wasn't good enough for you, I felt I didn't deserve you.. but now I will live knowing I never tried to get closer.. I never tried to kiss you, and now I'll never get the chance to know what could of been.. and for that, I'm sorry (her name). I'm sorry I didn't shake my fears and try, and I'm sorry for telling you all of this, but I had to get it off my chest. Just know that I truly did feel something extraordinary for you, something that I myself could not explain, and I'm sorry I could only express it through petty words, instead of actions.. Hope you don't take this the wrong way, and I hope you understand that it's going to take some time for me to be able to move past this.
Sorry about all the writing, but I need some advice, should I send the message? I know I need to move on, because I could never forgive her for what she did, no matter how I use to feel, but maybe in the future I could, and I feel maybe this message could make her understand how I truly felt about her.. any opinion is appreciated, thanks.
- Anonymous.