Ok, first of all I just joined here so I could ask this question; and I apologize . I never do this but I am just confused as to where to go; I've heard many different takes on this but I suppose it couldn't hurt to get the advice of people who are not close to me, here goes:
I'm 27 and I've been dating this 28 yr old woman I met on a online dating site. We've talked on the phone/texted/emailed for about two months. Hung out with her a couple times, and went on two actual one on one dates in the span of a month. Perfect, Perfect, Perfect. OK, fast forward (or should I say go back) to 2 weeks ago. The last of our dates..... things were fine, not as fun as the previous times we hung out. A lot of that was my fault, as I had so so much on my mind ..... you see I'm a graduate student pursuing 2 master's and I had the weight of the world crashing down on me, the hardest week of my life.
Anyways, I get to the end of that week after that date. I had only talked to her twice on the phone and texted once that week. Even after she had previously asked me how I was going to celebrate finals implying shed be around........ no answer when I call after I am done. All weekend. Last week she sent me 2-3 texts saying how sorry she was for not talking to me in so long. I buy the excuse she gave at face value, whatever, she had never given me any reason to doubt..... well I sent an email 6 days ago, just something funny and creative.... She sends me texts that day about how she cracked up, wondering how I was doing, etc... 4 Days ago I called, nothing. And that brings me to now.
Note: Yes, I understand the concept of ignoring someone to make them go away. And yes, I also understand the concept that she may have met someone else in the meantime. So, I know those theories well. I'm wondering if that is the case here. There is only one thing I can think of that couldve set a red flag off for her on that last date. She kept telling me things like "i can't believe something good came out of internet dating", "i cant believe______", I mean just heaping on the praise, and hugging/making out with me. Towards the end I told her I thought she was beautiful..... and if thats the only thing that I did wrong then whatever I'll accept it and move on.
And, ps I know theres an abundance of women out there so I'm mature enough not to get stuck on one. But my question specifically is: IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN SAY TO HER THAT DOES NOT SOUND NEEDY OR DESPERATE? Ultimately, I'd love to keep getting to know this woman more, and I think she should get to know me as well; there are definate connections, without getting into too much private detail I cant imagine her meeting someone else like me, nor I meeting someone else like her. If not, then I'm fine with that but I just to know a reason why, i thought older ppl didnt play these kind of games?